Comments on: Maid of Honor http://mamdoohalradadi.com/maid-of-honor/ Mind Broadcast Fri, 27 Aug 2010 18:11:54 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: doodi http://mamdoohalradadi.com/maid-of-honor/comment-page-1/#comment-123 doodi Sat, 17 Oct 2009 23:10:23 +0000 http://mamdoohalradadi.com/?p=647#comment-123 My family consists of 2 sisters and my dad, while we have 2 maids a housekeeper and a driver. I have to admit I cannot live totally without them for so long. I am 24,5 YO but I still do not have any clue how to iron a t-shirt, hehe. Sounds funny yet true and yes I will never ever agree to living without them (not even in a nightmare). Nowadays the number of maids exceeds the number of family members, so yes this is a serious issue. Umm, the only situation in which I could live without maids is when there is room service. Lol. We tend to “treat them badly” when: *They break some rules * sometimes out of natural causes *bad conduct. NATURAL CASUES I remember those days were I used to share my bedroom with my older sister, we used to fight too many times daily. Turn off the ac, switch on the light, do not make noise…. From over 13 years we only fought twice , that was when we shared a room for over 2 weeks in my grandma house. When you have someone around you all the times , when you have that someone involved into your tiny little details of yours (they miss with every little gadget in your drawers, that’s their job). No wonder that you would carry a fight or tow with that one, that is just our nature. You can say “We fight over our differences”. RULES BREAKING I might lay some rules and they have must broken some to enforce what they see as right. Sometimes I carry a fight with our housekeeper, been with us for more than 18 years. After sometime they try to enforce their rules, and this is the dnagours fight. I have never sticked my noise into the little details of our beloved house maintenance, but there are certain rules which should be respected. Is not it what they do to us in work, when you break the same rule multiple times? I would give an example of a such a fight: We have got a closet for the weeding dresses, well you know the things we rarely use but cannot get ride of them. Yet, sometimes she misplaces wedding dress into my closet and my favorite jeans into our stock closet. If it is one dress or one t-shirt that is fine, I would just talk to her and fix the situation myself. But what would happen if she did the same mistake a couple of times lets say in one week? For me this is a call for fight. What happens next, is that she will stop doing this for sometime only to repeat those behvaouires later. Why, I have no idea. Maybe she misses the fights. BAD CONDUCT I remember having a maid who used to wear my perfumes, makeup borrow my shoes (even without asking). I can never share my personal belongings with others, I would have carried a fight with my sister if she attempted such thing. I had to replace that maid. It is not like I am treating them in a bad way, otherwise they would not have asked to stay for so long. Maybe we should find a more civilized way to explain to them what went wrong, but sorry the only 2 things which have been proven to work is punishment (cursive power, like salary deduction …) or resentment. Which one would you prefer? Lets get real this would occur only with an uneducated maids (majority). Education level and cultural background palys a significant rule here. My house kepper cannot even read, in her home the only way to fix things is through loud voices. It is impsople to change her, she is Indonisan.I had a filpino maid, never we had any fight. Talking with filpinos would do, I would rather have all my maids filpinos. but they would never click with our housekeeper. My family consists of 2 sisters and my dad, while we have 2 maids a housekeeper and a driver. I have to admit I cannot live totally without them for so long. I am 24,5 YO but I still do not have any clue how to iron a t-shirt, hehe. Sounds funny yet true and yes I will never ever agree to living without them (not even in a nightmare). Nowadays the number of maids exceeds the number of family members, so yes this is a serious issue. Umm, the only situation in which I could live without maids is when there is room service. Lol.

We tend to “treat them badly” when:
*They break some rules
* sometimes out of natural causes
*bad conduct.

NATURAL CASUES
I remember those days were I used to share my bedroom with my older sister, we used to fight too many times daily. Turn off the ac, switch on the light, do not make noise…. From over 13 years we only fought twice , that was when we shared a room for over 2 weeks in my grandma house.
When you have someone around you all the times , when you have that someone involved into your tiny little details of yours (they miss with every little gadget in your drawers, that’s their job). No wonder that you would carry a fight or tow with that one, that is just our nature. You can say “We fight over our differences”.

RULES BREAKING
I might lay some rules and they have must broken some to enforce what they see as right. Sometimes I carry a fight with our housekeeper, been with us for more than 18 years. After sometime they try to enforce their rules, and this is the dnagours fight. I have never sticked my noise into the little details of our beloved house maintenance, but there are certain rules which should be respected. Is not it what they do to us in work, when you break the same rule multiple times?
I would give an example of a such a fight:
We have got a closet for the weeding dresses, well you know the things we rarely use but cannot get ride of them. Yet, sometimes she misplaces wedding dress into my closet and my favorite jeans into our stock closet. If it is one dress or one t-shirt that is fine, I would just talk to her and fix the situation myself. But what would happen if she did the same mistake a couple of times lets say in one week? For me this is a call for fight. What happens next, is that she will stop doing this for sometime only to repeat those behvaouires later. Why, I have no idea. Maybe she misses the fights.

BAD CONDUCT
I remember having a maid who used to wear my perfumes, makeup borrow my shoes (even without asking). I can never share my personal belongings with others, I would have carried a fight with my sister if she attempted such thing. I had to replace that maid.

It is not like I am treating them in a bad way, otherwise they would not have asked to stay for so long. Maybe we should find a more civilized way to explain to them what went wrong, but sorry the only 2 things which have been proven to work is punishment (cursive power, like salary deduction …) or resentment. Which one would you prefer?

Lets get real this would occur only with an uneducated maids (majority). Education level and cultural background palys a significant rule here. My house kepper cannot even read, in her home the only way to fix things is through loud voices. It is impsople to change her, she is Indonisan.I had a filpino maid, never we had any fight. Talking with filpinos would do, I would rather have all my maids filpinos. but they would never click with our housekeeper.

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