He said, She said- Silent screams
He said: I love this song it reminds me of the good days.
She said: I wonder why?
He said: because it reminds me of the good days.
She said: what about them?
He said: Just a nice memory, nothing much. I was wild and free, my worries were much smaller and my spirit much younger,and most of all my risks in life much bigger!
She said: Why what has changed? you seem so in love with your past!
He said: Not really, just a feeling you know, don’t think about it. Its between me, myself & I.
She said: You make me laugh. You really think your life has become something worse than it was ages ago! you should be happy I am in your life, besides I am the one who should be crying over my past and what I was, not you.
He said: What? who said I was crying over my past or present, just a feeling I had. You are so good at changing the subject into a personal vendetta.
She said: Vendetta…hmmmm, too many movies I see.
He said: Yes. The movies about to start, lets forget about it.
She said: Let’s not, and pretend we did! you are so good at running away from my conversations, every day you have a new thing to keep you occupied, if its not a movie its a phone you have to attend to, if not a phone a paper you have to read, if not that its your children, please respect my presence,
He said: Who ever said i don’t respect your presence? and what is this running away you talk of?
She said: You know its true, I even forgot what I was talking about! you are oh so good at changing subjects and guiding conversations, this is not your work you know, its me! your wife, your love, your old sweetheart, the mother of those children you hide behind always.
He said: Listen to yourself, its you who is changing the subject, guiding the conversation into areas we don’t even know anything about as usual.
She said: I knew it. Forget it, I am going out, I don’t need this. Enjoy the kids and your movie.
He said: Is this how we solve our quarrels? leaving the house?
She said: What are you going to do now? use your manly powers over me and prohibit me from leaving? go ahead do it! you are so good at being a male chauvinist pig.
He said: What has happened to you? is it that time in the month honey? you are calling me names now! please don’t do that.
She said: Now you want to sweet talk me! How typical, such a typical man, why did I listen to you back then and get married? I should have left with my family and completed my masters in the US years ago, came back got that banking job, and maybe today you would be the one whining and PMS-ing.
He said: You know something, go out, you need some fresh air. And while you’re at it, get me some Jamoca ice cream in a cone on your way back.
She said: You are so unbearable, so predictable and most of all, a typical man that only thinks about himself.
He said: Well what do you know, you have finally found out my secret, why don’t you get out of my face, you have done enough harm today, let it go.
She said: And if I don’t? you will do what? tell me? come on Mr. man, Mr.powerful man.
He said: Haahahaa, just go.
She said: What I work for you now? do you see yourself? hear yourself? watch yourself?
He said: No I don’t I am perfect!
She said: UFFF!
He said: Now look who is in a bad mood, relax and go enjoy yourself, I have already missed 10 minutes of the movie.
She said: I hope this movie can help you with the kids in the morning and put food on the table tomorrow when I am gone.
He said: Oooh, look at me I’m afraid, I’m shaking, petrified, maybe I can double as a maid for a while.
She said: Is that what I am to you now? A maid! very nice, I hate it when I cry in your presence, you always make me cry… I hate you.
He said: I love you too.
You never seem to know what to do in such wild, directionless conversations between the two sexes. Many people tend to do that, continue in an attempt to either win or lose, without even knowing what is supposed to be the outcome.
I know that the conversation is a boring one, a very known one, a battle if you may with each side playing to the others weaknesses and emphasizing their own sex manner in their words.
Each dances to his tunes, muting the other one when he or she wants, eventually dancing alone. There are signals one of the partners is screaming silently needing to be heard, while the other choses to look the other way.
We need to do the following to dig for the truth:
1- Look for signals or changes in patterns early and surface them fast, not later when its too late.
2- When one partner is dancing alone, we need to see why we were left out? what did we do? why did they shy away from us? we should try and win them back in a rightful manner, in a way that they think it was a natural one, nothing beats nature.
3- Never confront a wild animal with more confrontation, move away from the bulls horns, unless you like being a spanish trainee bull fighter. As you know, it never ends nicely, either the fighter is killed or hurt, or the bull is hurt or killed, its a Lose/Lose situation, so why enter the stadium? take them by surprise and wait outside with a bunch of roses.
4- No one is perfect, remember that, not even you with all that experience and sex-perience under your arms. You can be old and learn from a younger crowd, or vice versa.
5- Choose the right time to confront or have your talks.
6- Be an observer of your own actions, your own talk, your own reactions.
7- Why do you assume things that never existed, don’t we already have enough problems in our life, we seem to run to problems instead of run away from them. We tend to surrender easily now instead of fight for our voices and ideas, we tend to take our loved ones for granted now, have you taken your loved one for granted lately?
8- Its never hard to be heard, its how you speak and display your emotions that matter most.
9- We are all fragile in the end, no one is a rock, not men nor women, we are all fragile creatures, little children in grown-up disguises, everyone of us. Even our parents and those bullies we all used to have in our lives, fragile I tell you.
10- In the end we all win, it depends on your idea of victory. Was it a game of tug of war? who ever has the greatest might and power wins? or is it a smarter strategy involving devious planning and undermining? or was it just plain stubborn minds in the wilderness letting off steam by bagging heads against each other?
One way or the other, one party leaves the scene, physically or emotionally- Mamdooh Al-Radadi
me@mamdoohalradadi.com
Umm, got me confused. it seems that all what she wanted was some attention, while he was trying to prove something.
I totally agree that men from mars & omen from venus. The problem it is too dam difficult for men to understand a woman need & vice versa. My only advice for him in this situation is to empathies, since she is not being herself. For her is to speak out clearly.
I do not know much, still unattached (free spirit) , but that how it seemed.