Friends & You
It is known now that you are the average of the 5 people( or 6 for the sake of my favorite TV show) you hang aroung with most of your time. It makes sense to many people who have found this and adjusted their surroundings. Imagine with me the following scenario:
Ahmed has 5 friends, Ahmed is a single 27 year old Banker, he makes Sr18,500/ month. His friends are as follows;
Khalid: A fellow Banker, married, 32, makes Sr20,000/month.
Yasser: An engineer at a construction company, 24,single, makes Sr14,500.
John: An advertising manager, married,29, Sr20,000/month.
James: A marketing rep for a major brand, 26, married, makes Sr18,500/month.
Tarik: A Tele company senior manager, 35, divorced, makes Sr32,000/month.
Now from a financial point of view Ahmed is making the average of their monthly income. And he is single. He will also be the average of their mental power also the average of their success levels, the average of their positivity and so on. What usually happens is the group will either:
- Pull you up to their level or,
- Pull you down to their area.
Why don’t you go ahead and check out the guys in your group, anything from 3 to 5 individuals will do. Your findings will astonish you.
So what do you need that piece of information for? well to start with, if your group are a bunch of lazy bums chilling 80-90% of their time, I don’t see you going places!
If you do wake up one day and have a dream of becoming someone with more financial independence and a successful career you need to increase the total of everything( ingredients for success). And that could only be done by one of the following ways:
- Remove one or two of the group to enhance the average,
- Bring in some fresh blood to the group, or rich individuals.
Find a new group and dump the existing in a diplomatic way, trust me they will drown themselves sooner or later. They tend to have a downward spiral momentum, where down is cooler!
Likes attract like, so does success. In order to succeed you need to conduct an analysis of your surroundings, if at the end of your report you find weaknesses instead of strength’s, change is a must! “But these are my friends!” you complain, “whatever” I say, to move forward you need to get out of your comfort zone.
The example above also includes:
mindsets, thinking progress, funny factor, logic, analysis, growth, networking capabilities, reading, sports, athletic well being, knowledge, affairs, communication skills, social activities and many more important areas in life.You know that one part of your body is much stronger when connected to the other organs and limbs that make up your final body structure and build. So just to strike this one home, imagine a body builder with the most amazing biceps and overall conditioned arms, the triceps are out there, the forearm is strong, a picture perfect for any magazine. Now take that hand apart from his body, do you think it can survive a minute? not really unless its mechanical in the first place. The arm needs blood, protein, calcium and intensive training with other parts of the body to grow bigger than normal standards, the rest of the body supplies that ammunition. Now, think what would happen when the rest of the body sends out garbage to this arm? I would think the final arms would look like popeye’s girlfriend olive oil, long thin stick arms!
Know what you want, check what you have, get what you need, remove what you don’t need, move on.
When people ask about you, they ask about your friends, make sure their questions are answered with A’s and not D’s.
p.s. Don’t go dumping your friends today, keep a few that make you laugh or have no intrinsic value but the joy of laughing :-)
Hypocrites & Parasites This is how we do it!