Face off!

October 30, 2009 Mamdooh Cultures, Family, Living, People watching, Personal Views, Relationships, She said, He said, 4

The following facts are based on a make believe story, names and faces have been removed from the plot for your own safety, parental guidance highly required.

A 27 divorced man, married 3 years ago, out of a loving relationship. Nice job, nice family background, has a child shared by both parents. Works at a major F&B company in the region, is well off and lving a pure bachelors life.

He is an extremist in everything if you may. He has been driven home on many occasions due to high levels of chemicals and wheat & barley end products, has hurt so many hearts, a player in the game.

He likes everything, he parties with everyone, he knows many, he drives the latest foreign cars, he wears not so bad clothing, he barely manages from month to month with his expenses. He is lately trying to focus on his work, looking at his financials, they look sick and need ER to fix in the near future and major organ donations to secure his future. “ If only I focus on work and less on playing” he thinks.

He is actually known as a player and boasts most of his actions and summer escapades, he is a teenagers dream come true. He is not known for his religious belonging or practices or even prayers, he is one who say’s one day I will start. The wait for the sign came earlier than he anticipated.

A close friend of his, actually his friend since he was 3 years old had a car accident last week and passed away, god bless his soul. It triggered a fear, a reality, everyones ending. The trigger became a thought, that generated an idea, that became a magnet to  greater things, the things materialized into practices, practices pulled earlier weak beliefs and made them the only belief, self awareness was wide awake, daily doings were revisited, actions were put on hold, many calls went unanswered, crowds became small groups, groups were stripped into a few, the few became one, that last man standing decided to join the others,

The vision became clearer, the mission became holy, the eyesight was 20/20, if all was great he thought, where is all this fuzziness coming from? He starts to dismantle how he goes about things in life, he learns that he must be strong in the face of the devil, he is cautioned to take it easy before he loses it and moves away from its greatness to an area only known to backfire, he never listens to these others!

His parents like what they see, but also add to the precautions, he does not like the way his father and mother are living, his sisters and brothers are nothing more than the others, they are far from the greatest greatness of our religion, he is shadowed by doubt, which he destroys at every contact point to move on. He starts the orders about how things should be, his sisters panic, his brothers whatever, his father is annoyed, his mother cries. He does not see this never ending domino effect he is creating, he can only see his ways, he preaches and insists on teaching, his way, or fly out of my way.

The battles are many, the casualties…well, lets not go there. He fights with them all, and when they are all gone, he fights with his thoughts, and conveys positive affirmations of his rightful doings.

He accuses many, with things you cannot take lightly as a judge, let alone a new comer. “Our religion is based on love and tenderness and kind words that make you love our practice” peacefully whispers his mother. Whatever! is his response, who are you to tell me?she weeps away at her sons treatment to her. The irony of the matter is that in  our religion she is the most sacred of creatures Allah has warned us of hurting, how could this  new powerful believer treat her like that?

Don’t you think that this dissection of the community should not wake up and smell the coffee, rather have the coffee at boiling temperature slowly dripped in their eyes to see clearly!

• Is it not they that set the example for attitude in their play years?
• Is it not true that they gave BAD a new meaning?
• What about the same people you warn day in day out without shedding the light on the positives of returning to faith and enjoying both worlds? did they not tell you that too much of a good thing can turn against you?
• What about your ever so sweet mother that held you for 9 months then protected you from the rest of the world forever/as long as she lived( which ever comes first).
• What about your sisters and brothers who took up with your silliness and wrong doings which eventually caught up with their reputation?
• What about the poor hearts you broke and the wife you divorced after she caught you cheating on her oh so many times?!
• Where did you hide all those illegal things? was it not your only friends that saved your ass so many years, hoping that one day you will come to your senses?

Enough of this attitude of pushing & shoving & screaming you practice, I have one word for you: SICK!

There are ways to preach and teach. Yelling from experience never paid off, physical abuse will get you behind bars sooner than you think. Shouting and taking the most space in conversations will prove you wrong before you even start.

Change takes time. Resistance will be tolerated. People need their space to think then act.

If the trigger was the loss of your friend, then answer this my humble friend” How many triggers were pulled today, what will be the consequences of such happenings? What will the people like you do?will they stay strong and lead the way to a brighter day with respect and dignity, understanding and common beliefs? did you take your talk for a walk lately, all alone, no one but you?

Enough said.

mamdooh al-radadi

me@mamdoohalradadi.com

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