Every day we face something that moves us away or closer to our safety zone, comfort zone, box, whatever people call it, in my book its just what we are used to. Like sitting in a boat in the middle of the ocean, one wave pushes you out, and another pulls you back, without an oar, your sitting duck.

Life has many aspects to it that we seem to handle flawlessly, in many cases, we don’t know what to do, so we either move towards this new feeling or threat, in the same thinking pattern as “ the best defense is offense” or we hide and wait for the storm to pass, the problem with this one is, some storms seem to hover over your head, until you make your move.

As you grow younger, your internal guidance system handles most of your responses in auto pilot mode, if auto pilot was that good, why do we still need captains?

Change in lifestyle and atmospheres means adaptation,maneuverability, and change to the wise, and to the others, it means disaster. Comfort zone expansion is a relatively new idea to many, but let me share with you today my take on the subject.

We have to learn how to Smile n wave, at least for a while.

• If someone threatens you by their looks or power and you have nothing to do, smile n wave. Everyone gets his time, and everyone is special in his own way.
• If your boss manages to humiliate you for the day, smile n wave. The tables always turn on the idiots, its only a matter of time.
• If you lose it all on Wall street or main street, smile n wave, as my Idol Virgin records creator & serial entrepreneur & visionary Sir Richard Branson puts it” business ideas are like buses, there’s always another one coming soon”.
• If someone hurts your feelings intentionally and shatters your heart, smile n wave, hearts are meant to be broken, and their heart will face the same in some distant time, what goes around, comes around.
• If someone takes away their kids from their mom and makes her crumble, smile n wave. In the end your kids have a certain feel and pull towards their moms heart, no one can stop.
• If your lover or wanna be lover makes it hard to understand them, makes it hard to break in, smile n wave, you are what you are, and me and you know how great you are, their loss, your gain, you get to explore more.
• If your parents treat you bad when you are young, and don’t understand that you too have a personality, just do what I would do, smile n wave, you eventually show them how great you are, by becoming you, and welcoming them in with unconditional love.
• If he took you for granted and handled your feelings with total chaos, look him in the eye, and smile n wave. You know what? nothing kills a guy or girl more than losing the best thing that ever happened to them to a total stranger who gets to enjoy a more ripe individual and indulges in their love.
• If you get abused for your race, face, or place in the world, smile n wave and please tell me of a thing that stood the test of time? or did all the dictators of the world, every single one of them face his destiny and crumble to their knees? keep waving! ok you can stop now, stop! ok if you insist let’s do it one more time, this time high in the air, like morons, but instead of smiling and waving, this time wave and smile!
• If the pressures of your days tries to break you and presses even harder, push it away for a second and squeeze a smile n wave in its face, pressures make you stronger and if you manage them will make you softer in the right places.
• If you think that my talk is totally whack and crazy, do what I just did, smile n wave, wave n smile

Life is a bunch of Islands, if you like where you live, then OK, if you don’t and think the bigger Island promises more of everything, then hop on, but never, never let them captivate your soul, and if you catch my wave, then Islands are living ideas, feelings, people, things, places and most of all temporary parking spaces, only turn off your switch when you feel the feel is right, otherwise, hit the road Jack! oh and one for the road

• & wave, & wave!

mamdooh.alradadi

me@mamdoohalradadi.com

Why do I see raised eyebrows? yes, love yourself and the rest will follow. Just like respect, when you respect yourself people in turn respect you, who ever saw a shaken personality being respected by the community? so what about love? is it to hard for you to love yourself unconditionally? irrelevant of your surroundings and social or marital status, trust me on this, just like you trust using sunscreen.

When you love yourself, you sleep light at night, when you are taken for a ride or granted, you sleep with a full stomach and you know what that feels like! Loving yourself includes many aspects and rituals during your waking hours, such as;

The People in your life: Surround yourself with the people that are genuine and love you for you, not for material or privileges yo have, once your possessions leave, they will be out of your life in a heartbeat. Find people that make you smile, laugh, think, challenge you, understand your point of view, argue with you, share some of your tastes in life, care for you, adore your cute little nothings, pick you up, lift you to higher grounds. Delete all else.

The Music you listen to: Stop being someone else, listen to what you want, enjoy it, dance to it, memorize it, cherish the memories, its yourself that is enjoying it, not someone else’s ears, they belong to you. Buy or rip off the music you want to hear, share some, and listen to all your favorite ones most of the time, if they like it OK, if not, so what! Speak up and share your love for your music, love it and spell it out, make them know, who said their taste was better than yours? yours Rocks! you have unique tastes, they live as cats,copy cats. You are original, originality drips from you, they walk in your footsteps, without you knowing, you rule the scene.

What you look like: I always believe that people who love themselves always have unique taste, they stand out from the crowd, even if they are wearing the same brand and design, they simply make you look, they make things look better, so do you! Never doubt your looks, you were made to look good, actually to look fabulous, so go ahead and show off, let them envy your every move, your every attention to detail, your own twists to conventional looks, I told you before, you Rock! You know it and I know it, when you wear those old ragged jeans and worn out shirt, you still look like a million bucks, but playing it low profile, wow!

Your self esteem: Blow your own horn as you go along, tell people of your dreams and ambitions, your desires, your ideas, spell it out, and watch them raise your status to magnifique! your self esteem is directly in proportion with your love for your self being, your character, your beliefs, your ideology, your wonderful personality, you paint what you want to look like eventually, unless you want to be part of the crowd and not that portrait at the louvre’. When you do paint your own portrait use vibrant cheerful powerful colors that reflect your personality and powers you posses in you, go ahead and make a splash!

How can you love someone more than yourself before loving you, the source of the love, don’t argue silly arguments with me on this subject, imagine a loving person loving someone, now imagine a person that hates himself loving the same person? you get my drift, now go along and drift some more…

I love me, and eventually people will love me for me, not for what I have, not what I can do, not the powers I may posses, not even my thinking, its a combo if you may, that makes me, and if I don’t love me, you guessed it, they wont consider me for love, unless they can’t see it till its too late, so when I say  I love me, understand me.

To know me is to love me, was made for you & me, so lets all fall in love with the most important person that me and you know, you & me, love knows no boundaries, including your inner self, so go ahead and fill that space with some more love potion.

mamdooh.alradadi

me@mamdoohalradadi.com

I never knew that you can learn so much just by wondering around places, seeing and watching different faces and looking at past traces of lost civilizations. It is astonishing just another place to the naked eye, yet so full of wisdom to the person who really looks.You know the saying about living and learning, well if you live long enough you know more than the rest, yet many live longer years and end up empty, as the source of their education was conventional, the ones that really make a difference and leave traces when they leave this earth of ours, are the wonderers, the people that insist on knowing more through interactions and observing their surroundings and other creatures.

Children: Watching young children play was always useful in understanding things I could not figure out, they play and run wildly until they get tired, we train and force ourself to gyms. When left alone, they hide nothing, they cry when they want to, we hide it until it kills us, they laugh at anything and we pretend to be grownups, they are naughty by nature, yet innocent little creatures, we fake it and break it and hide nasty intentions, they call you by your first name, we make them call us uncle and sir and Mrs., what for? They love chocolate for its yummy taste, we avoid it for its nasty side effects without knowing its wonderful feeling booster. I learn daily from children, they are my real idol, they rock my world. The best areas to see them in action is at school playgrounds, in family settings trying to free themselves from the family slavery, malls, airplanes, supermarkets, and the number one area in my opinion when they first enter a large toy store, they get caught up with the wonderful colors and how they will convince you to move in and live here!

Women: Watching women interact together is a whole new ball game to many, they assume that they understand them, yet no man can stand in a football pitch and say he finally found the true meaning of a woman  to the crowd. The delicacy and mere inner components of such a creature are a mystery, and are always sweet, no matter what you say about them , they remain our poets favorite subject, they remain the completing piece of puzzle to this wonderful life.They are your mother, your sister, your daughter, your lover, they surround you with their love and caring, they teach you how to be soft inside, when the world makes you tough. They love to have fun, just like us men, they are mostly misunderstood, they have been trying to prove themselves for centuries now, their time has come to take the reigns of power, the time is now. I could never get enough of their intellect, beauty, sexiness, love, tenderness, thinking, sweetness, rudeness when needed, the way they simply make you forgive them with a cute look, its all it takes to lose a battle. Watch when they want something, watch when they become eager beavers, like a black widow spider luring you to their web and sucking the living daylights out of you, lol. Looking on their bright side, they can make black look white and pave your stones with diamonds and rubies, delicately caress your pain away, slowly yet surely completing you. I need more space for women, I must move on.. Great places to watch females in action are boutique shops, malls, supermarkets and in business settings, actually everywhere there are females they are great to watch

Men: They are surely obsessed with their testosterone levels injected with a big ego shot. Men among men are a different animal, they test waters continuously to see who is bigger, better, faster, richer, more clever, and in the end, they find that the race was with themselves, so they become friends. With women they change like chameleons, even the fine examples have this soft spot for a female, even if she was out to get his neck, he would deliver it on a silver plate and after He’s history, wonders what went wrong? Please note the men have a naturally strong feature build, yet if you had a special X-Ray machine to check them out, you would find small boys hiding underneath that masculine body. They love and care, protect and share, hunt and dump, just like females, they also cry. My favorite watching areas for men are hotel lobbies, coffee shops and malls, business areas where they are all important, and for that extra special feature presentation check them out at night spots.

Earth: When you take a walk in a park or by the sea or even in a metropolitan area, look at your surroundings, study them, watch how they function together in perfect harmony, any imperfections to the general system are weeded out, its amazing. The different shades of green amaze me, the different aromas that descend from flowers and trees, woods and jungles, farms and spas, seas and rivers, waterfalls and volcanoes, natural springs and swimming pools. The sounds that things make when you step on them, the crackles, the pops, the twists, the very actions and disformations they adjust to. The sights of stars at night, and sunshine rays on rainbows, the full moon above and its reflections on an empty desert strip with the ocean in the horizon. Going under water is a whole new world, each movement precisely triggered by some great force from above, each fish has a parent, each shell fish has a destiny, each whale will travel thousands of miles to mate, each dolphin jumps out of the water in splendid grace. Sharks know they rule and have the powers to prove it, shrimps are someone’s food like many other sea life form, to know what Im talking about take a swim one day and look below you, what a sight.

Sounds: The music over the centuries that man has made is simply a wonder in itself, nothing can demonstrate mankind’s genius like music, think about it, out of nothing, you get these rhythms you dance to or memorize the lyrics to complete the joy. Like circles in the sand going round and round, magnificent artist keep grabbing us by the ear, each person develops tastes to other peoples making and suddenly he is a fan forever. The sound of all the different creatures, the sounds we make when uncomfortable, when in pain, when in distress, the baby cries, the animals purrs and growls, the rains drops on your head, the sound of your hungry stomach, the sound of my computer keyboard, the sound a car makes, the heartbeats, the sound of music.

Smells: Your nose has great capabilities in identifying and familiarizing itself with all the different smells around us. Smell this; A new french perfume on your skin, the smell of garbage at a dumpster, the smell of a baby, the smell of a man, the scent of a woman, a teenagers socks after a day out at school and the mall, the smell of freshly cleaned clothes soaked in comfort, the aroma of hot bread out of an oven, the smell of a new car, the smell of burning rubber, the smell of an airport, the stink of a skunk, the smell of autumn, what about the food you eat, the pizza, the lasagna, the rice, the stinky sushi that you still adore, the indian cuisine, the spanish, the Thai, the French, its all good, now I’m hungry, damn it!

Feel: What does it feel like when you get hurt, no one actually touched you? but you felt it, now what does it feel like to touch a kiwi, a watermelon, a cat, a dog, a couch? Every thing has a certain feel to it, what about the feel of your daughters hair, your hair, your skin, her skin, his skin, his beard, her back, what does your bed feel like? how do you like the feeling you get when you touch a flower? how bad does it hurt when a thorn makes you bleed? how does your palm feel? what about the other side? are they the same? how does baby oil on your skin make you feel after a hot shower? what good does a massage do you? how does her body feel next to yours? how does it feel closer? what does a punch in the eye feel like? is it the same feeling you get when you touch a slimy snail and a soft cuddly teddy bear? what about diamonds, rubber, the mouse you use daily, the carpet or marble under you, does it feel the same barefoot, how does walking on the sand make you feel, is it the same as walking on ice? feelings.

All you have to do, is to take it in slow, its so much fun when you understand where to get a proper Fun & Interesting education.

mamdooh.alradadi

me@mamdoohalradadi.com

He: HI honey how was your day?

She: Well it was OK I can say, not too great though.

He: Why baby, you just got promoted last week to regional manager, and the challenges were more, you love that don’t you?

She: its not that, its…

He: Yes?

She: Its about me and you, I think we should schedule a nice long talk soon.

He: Now. What is on your mind honey? please let me know, I know I have been traveling too much lately, but I do miss you, you know that.

She: Yes…but..

He: Talk baby, what’s bothering you, I insist to know it all, just let it out.

She: Are you sure you want to know everything? I mean all the issues and things, now? today?

He: OK this sounds serious, please stop it and tell me.

She: Only if you insist, and will try to understand my point.

He: Sure.

She: There’s another man in my life, actually many more men in my life. I tried to find what I was looking for, and now there is someone who wants me for who I am, wants to be with me forever, sorry, but I share feelings for him, and I want a divorce as soon as possible. Do not worry about our three children, we are both grown ups, and we can handle it. Please understand where I’m coming from.

He: Silence.

She: Please don’t do that, talk to me, you always stay quite when I say something, always have neglected my thoughts and feelings, you always do this,I hate it, over the last 5 years you have been only nice to me, never for me, never close to me, all gone with the wind.

He: More silence, slight redness to the face. Temperature & pressure rising. Steam off.

She: Come on! say something! I need to know anything, talk to me.

He: And…what else?

She: What do you mean what else? much more… If you insist since its our last confrontation… All my travels were with boyfriends, I told the world I was divorced, I respected who you were and they never knew you..

He: Haahaaahahaaaaaaaaaa thank you!

She: There goes that sarcastic tone of yours again! And most of the times we never slept together I was afraid you might catch something, as I had many mild infections, but that’s too much details for you, sorry.

He: Thank you again, I am astonished at your classy manners and well being, your bringing up was of the finest high class standards we all dream of having, continue darling, please continue… I am intrigued..

She: Sarcasm will get you no where! And don’t you dare talk about my family! you know who they are and what they can do to you, unlike people I know..

He: Well honey, I have something to tell you too.

She: What now? you wanna divorce me? I asked for it anyway, what you are shocked at he news? what? what?

He: I have a wife and a kid, I do not have any girlfriends, I do not sleep with you because you don’t want me to, thats all no diseases, I respect your family, but disagree with their product that’s all, I never stopped loving you, I gave you my full respect and believed in you, I tried many times to warn you of your friends and lifestyle, I made myself so I know the pitfalls of this life we live, I never inherited anything, I worked hard to make us happy, now its someone else’s fate to be happy with me. In my attempt to watch over you for safety reasons, I stumbled upon your escapades and was devastated years ago, if you remember I took a long 30 day vacation to our Island beach house, but that was ages ago, I have been asked to get rid of you, but I couldn’t, you were the world to me, I trusted you unconditionally, now I can’t, sorry, but I have learnt that we need to move on, you chose to move on today, I have moved on 3 years ago darling.

She: On her knees fainting, disillusioned, confused, petrified, stabbed in the heart.

He: I have all arrangements in place for you and my children, my lawyers have taken all actions, you took so long to come out of your closet. Oh! and my wife says I need to stand by your side till you get better, I think you know her, your best friend Sheila, the one that always warned you about what you were doing, but you told her to get a life…she took your advice.

They say the truth is best unsaid…is it?

mamdooh.alradadi

me@mamdoohalradadi.com

What if you were passing an old lady crossing the street you actually never stopped to let her pass, what kind of impression would you leave on the poor old ladies soul? now imagine you did stop.

• What if when your child is talking to you you are thinking about your busy schedule and other life matters, is that what really matters when these moments will be lost forever, now imagine you did give them your full attention, the kind of attention you give your lousy boss or president.
• What if you bump into an old friend and you only comment on how awful they look after all these years, did you think you left a positive impact only because they were nice and laughed at your comment, what if you complimented the nicer things in them or the special occasion of meeting after all these years?
• What if someone was crying their heart out to you and you slightly showed no interest, instead of giving them the support they once gave you?you must be special for them to come to you, think about that.
• What if you slowed down a bit and looked at the beauty that surrounds you, what if you actually took a nice long breather and inhaled those roses, tried to figure out the kind of coffee you sip, thanked the waiter by his name, and when you return remember his name and compliment them, sometimes its all they need to get through the week.
• What if someone passed you suddenly in their car and you gave them a finger or two, how would that make the matter better? now imagine you smiled, then I can imagine you a happy person who caught two birds with one stone, you made him confused, and you were still in a happy mood.
• What if your parents were all rough and tough on you when you were a child, what if they never learned how to raise a child and you hate them for it till this day, did you forget the mere fact that what goes around comes around, and you soon will be a mother, and I guess you will just smile when you are treated bad. Forgiving people is the way to live, you can never know if you have a second chance when you come to your senses.
• What if a young junior at work comes to you for help and you shoo him off complaining about your priorities, how long do you think it will be when he will never come to you for help when in need? Helping people when you are up will really help you on your slips down one day.
• What if on a plane you see a couple sitting in front of you with three children and one of them will not stop crying, you know that annoying cry, not the continuous one, and you get up and tel them to sush the baby its a 6 hour flight to London, how do you think they will feel towards you? now imagine you considered its only 6 hours from your life, you can manage with an ipod, an ear plug, a mental block and leave them alone with their crying baby.
• What if your maid made a mistake and broke a plate and you verbally abused her, deducted the plate cost from her low salary and sent her to her room, how would she feel towards you? now imagine what a nice talk about the issue would be like in her mind, just because you pay her salary doesn’t mean you can treat her bad and think the universe will not pay you back sooner or later.
• What is you take peoples feelings lightly and hurt them, instead of be yourself and either make it happen or move on? Now imagine your heart being broken by a serial dating machine in the name of love.
• What if all the people you meet today and tomorrow feel better because of your wonderful cheerful smiles you send their way, how would they feel when you either look away when you have eye contact, or totally ignore them, or even give them that old western cowboy “ Whatcyou lookin at stranger?” smile.
• What if the what ifs are answered and not put on hold, they only add up, take action and look your what ifs in the face and ace the test of time, everytime, for a better time

• mamdooh.alradadi

me@mamdoohalradadi.com

Go ahead and take that leap into the 1000 ft. drop and make a splash! Stop following and follow your heart, follow those childish boyish acts of innocence, jump! Its funny what funny can do to you, smile! do you hear that beat in your head that makes you wanna dance, dance!

Nothing beats like your heart beats jumping in joy and happiness, cherish every beat if you can, if not catch the rhythm and record it for those down days, but do stay tuned. Hard becomes the new easy when you smile back in the face of uncertainty, for only you know its time for change, change is good, change is critical to move out into another box, paint your box with lots of sunshine, rainbows and smily faces.

Each corner we take, each bend in the road leads somewhere, each bump, hick-up is nothing but a temporary glitch, find the new update and restart now, not later. Some habits are hard to break, admitting you have a bad one is half the solution. Respect yourself in order for people to respect you back, go ahead and hug yourself and say I love me( say it!).

Gifts and surprises are not seeked for their monetary values as you know, cherish your gifts, for you have many.Most of our gifts we know, but take for granted, some we don’t even know until they are gone, make good use of your gifts.Find inner peace first, then seek world peace, relax, take it one step at a time.

People you meet daily are precious gems awaiting your arrival, each one comes with its own hidden secrets and magic, each one has in them energy and wisdom for you to gain, embrace knowledge through people. Respect individuals for their true person, not their title or what they do in life for a living, be equal and see the beauty. Listen twice as much as you talk, the evidence we have is two ears and one mouth, that seems to sound right.

Opposites attract, watch out for what you attract, the attraction factor multiplies when you are attracted to your weaknesses, seek what you really want, and you shall be rewarded. Stay free spirited, look everywhere, keep your options open, and open your arms as wide as you can when you find your happiness. Give everyone a chance or two, in turn they might do the same, if not you know that you tried your luck, for the harder you work, the luckier you get.

If you see someone you like, imagine your life video playing with them in the scene, how do you feel, do you get goose bumps, or the measles? If you find that you need them to join a part of your journey, or all the way to the end, then what are you waiting for? Kiss them without them expecting it, hug them, touch them, send your signals and await the reply. Watch them eat their meal and enjoy the sight, look for signs of cuteness and simplicity, what do you think?

Small talk is big talk where I come from, sometimes the messages inside small talk are more important than heavily revised How to guides, small talk your way into their way. Look them in the eyes, look away and wonder what it would be like when you can catch their breath. I could imagine me and you, you and me, together, having fun, discovering each other from another angle, playing to each others tunes, romancing the moments. Turn up the volume, hone in to their frequency and listen in, do you like what you hear, go for it.

Run fast or slow, but do run, run in any way or form you prefer, feel the wind in your hair, feel your heart beats adapting to your wild spirit, your spirit needs training every once in a while, run free, follow through and see what happens, but don’t stay motionless.

Why do I feel I want to dance with you? why do I feel I will? why do I want to take you away for a while? Why not? our moves remind me of chess, someone will eventually win, be it mastery or the other someone gets fed up and calls it quits and gives in, I love your moves. I know what will happen, my little genie friend told me, he says me and you will move it up a notch, and we do like each other, we weigh options wisely and sometimes haphazardly, but we do calculate outcomes. I always hated math! you do the math.

Please excuse me for changing the subject, it was my free soul running wild on me again

The soul is born old but grows young. That is the comedy of life. And the body is born young and grows old. That is life’s tragedy.

Oscar Wilde- from A Woman of No Importance, 1894

mamdooh.alradadi

me@mamdoohalradadi.com

In a world of change and fast pace we tend to get carried away with it waves and oceans on a daily basis, before long you look back to check how far away you sailed, only to find you are in uncharted waters.As we humans tend to be the best habitants of this earth of ours, and also have the ability to change like chameleons to match our surroundings, we can manage. if you slow down a bit and look around you and above you and under you, you can see what you missed on your fast pace run to nowhere.

We have this tendency to be harsh on our self, we behave in a socially acceptable manner which is not exactly what we want, except for the fantastic few. This group of people have learnt at an early age to make tough decisions, to take risks, to handle their choices with utter bravery. If I was to categorize myself I would pretty much say I belong to the wanderer risk taker, accept no bull person.

But I, like many others, have many defaults and mistakes, I have also taken forever to reach such relief and total control of what I want in my life. You too have this embedded in you somewhere depending on your upbringing and reading and teachings, you just have to dig for it and make it surface.This is not a joking matter, it is dead serious. Everyday you hear gossip and talk about so & so, everyday you pretend that you do not like gossip but lend an ear, and ask some questions.

What you are doing when you listen to gossip is basically check how better you are than the hero of this gossip session, she is the benchmark that you want to run away from. When you accept to be treated badly, you chose, when you are betrayed and stayed for the ride, you chose. When your gut feeling tells you something, and you refuse to listen to that FM station, you shut it off, and you are held accountable.

From my humble and small experience I can say that people fall into two categories, those who accept and live along, and those who refuse and live happy. People come in all flavors, different colors and looks, many scales of beauty, and in all sizes and two sexes. We cannot continue to say females are weaker, or men are aggressive apes, things have changed.

Here you have miss sunshine with Mr. Ego male, she knows he has his defaults that will end their relationship someday, but she accepts because he is the talk of the town. On the other corner you have Mr. perfect man with his drop dead gorgeous wife that only loves him for his bling and prestige, he to knows the end is close, but drags on his bitter winter days, all year long.

Both examples are real, they come in many mixes and combinations, in all civilizations and nations across the globe. I used to accept my relationships with all the hassles and baggage, emotional and garbage, and say it is my destiny. Then one day I woke up and said what does the other side look like like? Nothing was the same from that moment on. I tend to have this message hovering over my head that reads” My gain, your loss” You see I have control over my life now, not you anymore, you dragged me down, now I have to move on.

I make mistakes as I type, so imagine my life. I accept my rough mistakes and bury them with the daily dust we go through, with its good and bad moments. Over my two relationships( marriages) on a span of 15 years I can say this” you owe it to yourself to find tranquility, even if it means getting rid of your partners” tough talk, I know, but I did it. Many can argue with me, you were dumped, or I dumped the partner, I can assure you that I had a massive hand in it for it to happen. And after that my life was like a yo-yo, we all love yo-yo’s you know then you get sick and slow down, but you are always happy.

When a girl or woman says get lost, I obey. You say in a cute way, what about love? I say love comes and goes, the good one comes when its least expected, who told you that the one you are in love with is the best thing for you?forever?and ever? check it out every once and a while for comfort and to make sure it is. So what do you do when a boy says its over, I don’t find myself in you? you accept and move on, no questions asked, like an original guarantee. You can call me heartless, I can defend my case till the last drop that I am full of heart and live in heart land. The only problem I face with the subject is how it is taken lightly and wrongly, and eventually given a bad rap.

To be happy you need to stay happy, day in, day out, for in the end its the totals that count. For instance if you have 360 days in the year and you are happy for 30 days in the year, sorry dear lovebird, you ain’t got a clue about happiness. Its when you can remember more laughs than fights, more excitement than fear, more joy than frowns, more hugs than slaps, that’s when you can say you are a happy go lucky individual.

Nothing deserves you more than you, so when you say good bye my love, I say hello stranger. No one should have control over your visions, dreams, happiness but you. You are the most special person in the world to you, if the other partner cannot see that, move on. When you combine two peoples lives you should have a stronger, more lovable, more powerful person made, not a stronger one and weaker lost other! I hate the people that suck the living daylight out of beautiful young souls and throw them bones to the dogs, then come back complaining that they are not up-to their standards.

Next time you call someone and say its over, you better mean it, it is not a joke, or game you can play. Letting go of a loved one is almost impossible, but please remember an important fact regarding this issue; Is she the one? is he the last lover? why did this happen? should I fix it or bust it? Should I pump more life into it? or let it dry & die? Is it worth my most valuable assets, my heart & life? or is it a liability that only seems to grow?

In the end its your call. Love is wonderful, love is magic in the making, love is the most talked and seeked feeling on earth, love can move mountains and create fresh water springs in our imagination that quench our love thirst, love makes the world go round, love ensures us of a better tomorrow, love mends and heals, love brings sweet tears to ones eyes, loves brings you to your knees willingly and happily, loves makes you smile unconditionally when you walk alone in your mind at night, love is the air we breath, without it I can imagine all of Solomon’s mines worthless, for who shall I give it to when I find it?

Just before I sign out, don’t forget to check your happy levels, and trust me on this one, you are the most precious person that ever lived, that needs to be loved unconditionally, and with no strings attached, and you can be very greedy, yes you can, you can have it all, leave nothing for the others, its all yours for the taking.

One condition though! if no one wants to be with you for whatever reason, do what I do, look the other way and move on. Its all good

Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it’s better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together.

mamdooh.alradadi

me@mamdoohalradadi.com

I write to you my valentine…

Today:Today is the night I am not with you darling. Tonight I miss your simple seductive smile. Tonight I needed you here beside me. Tonight I missed that sweet fresh aroma that evaporates through your soft skin. Tonight I needed someone to cherish the moments. Tonight I needed to wander off in the night with my love.

You: You know how you make me feel and you pretend you don’t. You know what makes me tick and you tock. You have what it takes to fulfill my widest fantasies in any woman. You leave traces all over my memory lanes. You whisper your love to me time and time again and I want more to feel secure. You make me secure. You know my strength is nothing without your love. You energize my laid back me, raise that heat baby.

I: I never knew you could exist. I always wanted someone special to take me away. I need to rest, let me surrender willingly without a fight or white flag, I am yours. I need you to take care of me, for I am nothing but a child in a grown mans outfit. I seek your warmth and unconditional love, seek me down. I imagine it with you, in my wildest moments you fill my screens. I searched for many years and many people to know you. I love the fact that love was made for you, for my love was always for you.

Who? Who would have ever imagined we saw each other years ago, you were a baby, I was a boy?. Who would have known that on your wedding day, you would end up in my arms many years later?. Who would have known that we needed to go separate ways to ends up this way? Who would say we were meant to be? Who said love was blind? Who knows my love is fine girl.. but you. Who needs love when I have you, for it is you that brings that feeling out in me.

Your: Your cheeks turn me on baby. Your walk brings me closer. Your sunshine lights my paths towards tranquil summer nights in your arms. Your calls pull my heart’s chords. Your voice reassures me of a better day. Your baby like manners astonish me. Your curiosity and bravery make me proud. Your jealousy keeps me guessing. Your hot buttons are my play. Your angry moments also turn me on. Your fire lights my desire.

Imagine: Imagine me and you. Imagine what we can do. Imagine the places we can see. Imagine the birds we see take flight and fly out of sight. Imagine us taking those funny pictures together. Imagine your selfish self thinking about making a run for the bus while I pack the shopping bags. Imagine my smiles and plan to get back at you. Imagine how I steal your fries without you looking. Imagine me and you at a toy store pretending were 5 again. Imagine you driving my new car, and me next to you scared stiff. Imagine me in leather pants at our wedding. Imagine the melting ice cream licked off your lips. Imagine your showers being disturbed by none other than loverboy. Imagine our story together.

Why? Why do I want to go shopping with you at 3 in the morning on a rainy day? Why do I want to see Rome’s cathedrals with your eyes. Why do I want to take you to Cinderella’s castle and watch how you behave my little darling? Why do I want to get on a merry go round with you and scream fanatically stealing your cotton candy? Why do I care what people say when we play in the mall? Why wouldn’t I run after you in a car park? Why can’t I take you to a fancy restaurant and when the bill comes I take off & run screaming? Why can’t I wake you up in the middle of the night and make you share my ice cream?

We: We should be together. We should never waste a minute. We don’t want anything but us. We love together. We belong as one. We feel each other. We need each others comfort. We will be, wether we wait to see, or see the wait disappear. We can make it once we unite as one. We start at the end in mind and pause for eternity. We have that feeling of belonging  we cannot live without. We learned enough alone, now we need to learn together. We seem to understand more in each others arms. We are thirsty for hugs and kisses, but only the real ones.

Let me: Let me wrap around you my arms to protect you from whatever may come close to you. Let me kiss that neck of yours and caress that silky hair that smells oh so good. Let me touch you there, and there and maybe there, ok just one more there. Let me explore my treasure in total darkness with nothing but a candle to warm and guide me. Let me bring the woman in you all night long. Let me explore and adore and hear you say encore’. Let me be your bad boy tonight and every night. Let me be your warm delight. Let me tickle you with my rough edges, slowly scratching your sweet soft complexion. Let me run wild in your wilderness my sweet devilish angel.

When all I can see is you, take my heart and guide me in. Please don’t let another Valentine go by without you by my side.

“Gravitation is not responsible for people falling in love.” -Albert Einstein

mamdooh.alradadi

me@mamdoohalradadi.com

She accepted with a look of confusion on her face. She was not sure what she wanted. She was not about to refuse her fathers request. She was a bright one, the future lay ahead of her. She was her mothers pride and joy. Her friends loved her. They were all dreamers and believers in the wonderful world we live in. They jumped in joy and laughter. They played and played some more. She looks in the mirror to see her pretty face. She is faking a smile. She is happy and all her body is in stun mode. She loves her parents. She loves her older brothers. She really loves them. She loves them to death. She was a silent and lovely lolita. Her smiles light up their modest home. She was a happy go lucky girl. She knew she loved him. For he was her man, he was her brave defender, he was her soldier and warrior to the outside world, he was everything she ever wanted, she would confide in him, she would follow him to the moon and back, he would never harm her, he would always put her ahead of his desires and needs, he would laugh and play with her, he was her father.

She looks one more time in the mirror, her reflections confirm her beauty and disillusion her focus, she is confused. She awaits her magical moment as they say, she wants happiness to fill the world, she will be the proud daughter that her family adores and loves. She will be the talk of the town they told her, they never mentioned that the newspapers would carry her story, they never mentioned the other channels of human communication she was heading for.

Her knight in shining armor arrives with an upbeat of her heart. She is ready for him, or is she? he arrives and before him their modest home is filled with goodies that all her family likes, cars are only part of the gifts, for her brothers and father, she has caused them all to smile, happiness was her middle name.

The groom in shining clothes arrives and the ceremony is on. The long yards of food fill the empty space, enough to feed 500 people, yet only 10 are there. She steals a peak through the crack in the door, there he is talking to her father, there he is shaking hands to her title, for today she is his, from today the ownership moves from father to husband, the price is paid in full, she is finally his. This groom is not in love with this bride, it is only marriage, sick style! He has taken his prize for having money, he could afford her, he bought her, her father sold her, she paid the price in full, with a sweet naive smile, she smiled and I damned the people involved in such murders of gentle souls and spirits.

My anger is not from the fact that her husband is 80 years old, my total disgust and sadness strikes me deep when you know that the bride was 12.

The girls mother was divorced and wanted an end to her evil selfish son of a cow father who sold his little child for money, she was 12! only 12, not 21….12 the devil. She was a baby in any families eyes, a cute little girl, he was only 60 he claimed in court, wow! if I could only hang him from his feet upside down and show him off in some deserted area with a big neon sign that spells “ Deadly & Insane Child abuser” beside him I would have the father, the guy that married them and the witnesses including the guests.

The sad thing is the girl refused to get a divorce, for it was her fathers happiness she was after, the poor soul.

p.s. The above story is a based on a true story, ongoing as I type, it sadly takes place in my country, I hope it is escalated and magnified to put an end to this sick practice involving innocent young angels, in the end all angels win, devils fail and fall.

mamdooh.alradadi

In the corners of the red sea, a school of fish is swimming doing what they do best, swim around. They play and feed on the smaller fish and whatever seems to be available. Boys and girls in total harmony, they have had their formal education at community colleges and the lucky few at the hall of fame upscale schools.

Survival is the key to their success, the fittest and leanest will see another day, every day is a new and enjoyable experience and chance to do all that you can do in your life. One hour in fish time is treated like a lifetime.

They give new meaning to “ a life time experience”.A new couple are introduced to one another by the reef, they chuckle and acknowledge one another, cheers they wave their glasses high in the air, and exchange winks.

They can see the humans at the surface on top of a cruise liner celebrating this one year thing they call new year, every year, same time they see the sky above light up to the sight of firecrackers and extravaganza shows. They know it ends when they see the drunken humans bottles hitting the seas floors with a thump and the big ship moves away with its annoying engine sounds.

The new kids start seeing each other at the local hidden seaweed cafe, they sit and chat, bubbles every where with their messages appearing inside like some cartoon. “You have your mothers eyes, I like the way you move, your fast and sexy” she looks down in a shy manner. “ what do you do for a living?” she asks. “ I’m a scout, we patrol the area making sure no predators are too close” with a sign of proudness he declared. “I know this place by the reef which is very romantic at dusk, wanna come check it out?” and off they go.

On the way they share a ipod swinging to the beats of 50 bones new album, the most notorious rapper in the red sea, known for his in your face raps and controversial lyrics, his latest hit “ mermaids want me” was on WTV’s top charts for 6 weeks( unheard of in the under water world) earning him Platinum status. All the teens love him for his out of the water attitude and way of life. Fish live and move in schools, he is their one way ticket to bad boy land.

They get to the reef and the sights and sounds are just irresistibly romantic. The silence and view is gill blocking. They look into each others eyes, they have no time to waste, this is the time, this is our time, we know it, its that feeling you get when you see someone and think you know them. They tango. The music has changed to more romantic chill-out lounge moods, they dance and romance the stone. He tells her to close her eyes, she smiles.

He runs away looking for those oysters in danger land, he tickles them open, he steals the pearls one after the other, he finds a small human fishing line, bites it right, drills the pearls and one after the other makes way for the most amazing necklace fit for a queen and swims back.” open your eyes” he bubbles, “what took you so long? OH MY GOD!” she screams.

In our lifetime days are numbers, in fish lifetimes days are lifetimes. They embrace the moments and move fast, they are the talk of the town, they love it. They have contained the issue and it is theirs, they don’t mind the hollywood gossip, let them fish off! they think, its our life, and we do what we do best, make babies.

They marry and leave to make their home in the anemone area, an upscale area where only the rich and famous clownfish reside, clownfish make people happy, so they make the most money, fish need to laugh you sea, living with the daily dangers the face. These fish got it right you sea, only what matters counts. The listen to the customer, and deliver, and the customer in return pays top dollar.

The babies arrive, all cute and adorable. Boys and girls in a 50/50 split. The children grow up and are soon on their own to discover the sea world on their own. The personalities are very different than the parents, the parents are proud of their produce( remember this word).

The children escape their surroundings, swimming here and their, fast and furious best describes them, they are fat yet nimble, nice and juicy catch as we humans call them. The no swimming area is where the deadly fish swim and lethal humans come to catch. The reason for the crowd is simple,food! the fish can’t seem to remember anything, or who their deadly others are from time to time, everything is based on today, what happened yesterday or last hour is history.

If it was one thing i can say that is the deadliest thing that fish have its their memory, what memory?

Anyway, the young ones are all heading home as they notice their missing adventurer brother? the time is getting late for our games and fun, and he has been missing for hours.

“ How would you like to have it sir?” politely asked the waiter to some family at some fancy sea food restaurant in some 5 star hotel. “ Have it baked and add some herbs to it only, this fish tastes good like that”. replied the mother on the table.

Two families, two tales ;P

Enjoy the moments.

mamdooh.alradadi

me@mamdoohalradadi.com