We all seem to focus on the good in things today, and that’s a good sign. The issue is sometimes taken for granted by many folk. If you say you will do something and you don’t, and see something else you like to practice and you don’t, then you become worst that your original state.

So I will attempt today to show you what not to do, at least a few that will get you ahead of the many crowds surrounding you in 10 easy Do Not’s, remember Do Not!

1. Do not look around a person when talking to them, do not look or take a sneaky glimpse at your watch, unless you want the meeting to end, or signal their time is up!
2. Do not yawn, and if you do excuse yourself for doing so, and state why.
3. Do not pretend to listen to what they are saying, if you already know the information being said, say so, and move on in the conversation.
4. Do not keep repeating “ Yes, but!” “ I know, but” “ Listen to me” “ You don’t understand” take a moment and imagine someone is using those words with you in a conversation you are so excited about.
5. Do not belittle people based upon misconceptions, rumors and stereo typing. I still fall into that trap, and I have been working on it for years. Here is the good news, the more I let my analysis guards down in conversations with new people, the more fascinated I become in the wonderful people that come in all sizes, ages, shapes & color.
6. Do not wait for your time to talk. If you want to talk about yourself talk to yourself and save us the boredom and agony.
7. Do not assume you are better than the talker, instead become interested in them, ask more, talk to them more about them! as they say “ be interested, not interesting”.
8. Do not ignore cultures within cultures. Ask more and observe more, learn from your mistakes. There is a big difference between how Arabs communicate and Japanese. Even within your own country there lies many cultural ways and what’s normal in your part, could be a pure insult a few hundred kilometers south!
9. Do not focus on the other persons defaults or scar, or balding spot, or black spot on his white shirt, or her smudged mascara…  look them in the eye and focus on what’s being said, bodily and wordily.
10. Do not interrupt people when they talk, and do not accept interruptions, respect is a requirement for free flow of ideas and great communication.

And one last one for the road:

1. Do not be known as:

• a conversation hog
• a long meeting individual
• an Egoistic individual talking about your glory, let it speak for itself
• a me, me, me person
• a fake smile
• a gossiper, enjoy it every once in a while, but never be known for it
• a person that talks with food in his mouth, disgusting!
• a boring person, read more, examine more, investigate, understand, ask… you have to believe that people get bored with dull people you know, its true!
• a person that starts conversations with the same line every time i.e. “ here’s what I think!”
• an envy kind of person, everything they say they bought or did or managed makes your face turn blue, I know cause it shows! people read bodies, faces and words, remember that.

mamdooh.alradadi @ his home in Ramadan thinking of a better way in Jeddah, 18th August 2010

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Watching an episode  of  ”The Office” drives me into laughter every time for its relativity to working in organizations. The crew on board the show almost represent the majority of the working force out there worldwide.

Giving the manager and his sucking up assistant the spotlight guides you in a magical effortless way to recognize that people know about the stupid things that go on behind company walls.

It’s one of those series that as soon as they release a season I buy it all and watch it back to back, then come back to it over the year, enjoyable every time. The reason why I think I really like it and my son might not, is the relativity factors. I have been there, live there, he has heard but never worked it yet, so he might laugh at other things in the show, while I feel it in my bones.

While rising up corporate ladders I had my share of learning things the hard way, sometimes when its too late, but in the end its all good, as long as I can laugh at what I used to think was right.

I have watched all the original English series, all the American version, waiting for the Arab version to literarily crack up! that is if they ever do it right and do a thorough investigation across the whole region and not just one country to give the international a real deal feel kind of show. If anyone reading this ever makes up her or his mind to make the show, count me in!

Actually that just gave me an idea for another book! wish me luck..

It’s all a market this business world, that was the original idea originally wasn’t it? then we complicated it and made it into the corporate world and a lot of other bi-products, industries, sectors, segments,tiers,layers, boundaries..etc.

The people managing companies(managers) try and sell interested people(customer & workers) that they are the very best out there in this specific time and age, comparing only their strong points, camouflaging their weak points as work in progress.

The worker wants the money, the knowledge, the experience. The Owner want the productivity, the best deal he can get, and the results to achieve his goals. What they both know is there is something missing from the negotiation table, the real story.

Well.. lets jut say that the real story is yet to be told and then discovered. So much fun and action goes on in corporate boundaries I am surprised that no one has jumped to the occasion and said “ now that’s funny!”. Take for instance the following examples:

• The smoking room: Since smoking is being more and more frowned upon and smokers face the sad and ugly truth of the smoking chambers placed strategically in the worst locations and as small as possible for a quick puff of death.

If we take a sample of the daily visitors over a 30 day period, we will find them mostly staff and not managers. Is it because the smoking managers know better and quit smoking? or is it they can actually smoke in their offices because the can? you figure.

• The team work efforts: Managers on their way up scream and talk about team work, team discussions, team efforts, team whatever, and guess who makes up the final decision, uha! the manager you smart person you!

When questioned about the brutal, selfish, one man show decision, you are bombarded with side tracking talk and a sudden look at the watch signaling your time is up!

• Time management: everyone knows what I am talking about. In a nutshell, it’s getting the important things that make a difference done in time. I have witnessed managers that simply are time managements best kept secrets, great examples( of the worst kind).

They seem to know how to screw a whole departments workflow with a few requests and complain about why no real results are seen over the last 6 months? management soon finds out the root of all evil and sends in a permanent solution.

• Interviewing skills: The majority of people in the process seem to rank it low on their priority list, therefore a lot of good candidates get turned off for attitude issues from companies looking to hire them. This is a two way street, always remember that, you are looking and so is the interviewee!

If you cannot interview people, hand it over to the capable, its that simple! enough is enough with this subject.

• Communication: what communication? everyone seems to have hot buttons waiting to be pressed and explode! with al the many courses available and the ones that people took, communication although in my opinion the most important sign of leadership seems to be the least practiced!

Single line emails become essays and lessons in life. One minute phone call requests becomes half hour kissing ass conversations, then end in fights on email. Management styles seem to be in favor of old school bullying techniques, not knowing there are lectures on how bad it is and how harmful it can be to the “Team work”. And much more…So much to laugh about, and so much to learn…

Some people learn by reading and investigating just before they jump, other jump and figure it out. Which one are you?

mamdooh.alradadi thinking about the funny things that happen in companies in jeddah 30th June 2010

me@mamdoohalradadi.com

I basically watch anything that comes flying my way, I give everything a chance once or twice, so later I found I am more into comedy in any form or subject. Never was a horror movie guy, I love thriller to an extent, Espionage big time, action, romantic comedy and a long list, which makes me feel I am one of two things: 1) tasteless 2) wide scoped , let me say I’m a bit of both.

Ever since we were kids, the Bond brand was there, with all the action, cars, technology and babes, destinations, story, the works. I remember begging my mom to buy me the James Bond white Lotus that spits rockets from the trunk, awesome..Thank you mom!.

It seems like the writer checked out what people like in life & movies and said to himself with a bit of luck, some special effects I can bring it all together, I think it was Ian Flemmings stories, who wrote some of his best work in Jamaica.

Suddenly the movie becomes a hit amongst viewers worldwide, and when you see someone attempting the impossible we tell him to cool down Mr. Bond, for his fantasia land adventures and survival techniques, “actually never die ones” to be precise, taking down the  enemies of the USA & Great Britain in stealth mode.

1. How many times did I rehearse and define my sales presentation before giving it?
2. How many books did I read ( and re-read ) about my industry/career/service/skills?
3. How much time do I spend each day in the gym, and how many days each week, to keep myself physically fit?
4. How many thank you notes and follow up emails do I send to important customers, clients, volunteers, or friends?
5. How much of my income do I invest in myself to further my vocation and my passion?

• Something happens in your life that changes your direction and thinking, travel more.
• Someone makes your day with a simple smile, just enough hope to make it through, follow through.
• Some idea sparks you up and ignites your genius, go get em Einstein.
• Some feeling is all it takes to make the switch, like an itch screaming for attention, listen.
• Some tragedy slaps you awake, learn and move on.
• Some hurt breaks you in pieces, your only human, the strong shall survive.
• Some girl betrays you and turns on your self destruct button, turn it off.
• Some little girl in the street catches your attention, do not shoo her away.
• Some fight makes you think about your belief system, is it time for an upgrade?
• Some things seem just that, accept the simple truth.
• Sometimes it seems that all the world is against you, probably is, change your mindset.
• Some foods, drinks, music bring memories, choose your foods, let the good times run.
• Some people know your hot buttons, diffuse them.
• Some actions are side steps and not the real deal, search, then react.
• Some beautiful things pass you by, slow down and admire, it brings wisdom to the wondering eye.
• Somewhere over the mountain, there is that fountain that quenches your thirst, seek it, enjoy.
• Some one told me a secret, it no longer is, she said she only told another.
• Some love affairs never see the light at the end of the tunnel, shine on!
• Some minute you get it, the other you don’t! welcome back to reality.
• Some idea seemed wonderful and doable, then that thing hit the fan, keep your drawing board handy.
• Some lazy afternoon you plan your life, good start.
• Some confusion becomes an illusion and the decision is made, move.
• Someones loss is your gain, and when you lose, someone too will gain, give & take freely.
• Some people are worth your time, how much is your time worth again?
• Some interactions make you wonder why not? some make you ask why?
• Some breakups happen for the right reasons, the other 90% are communication gaps.
• Some faces are remembered for ever, many disappear, let the important ones know it.
• Some one hugs you, do you really feel it, or are you faking it? some things you just can’t.
• Some colors make you smile, paint your days sunny.
• Some folk bring you down, others pick you up. You can never get enough of the good stuff, don’t forget to throw out the garbage.
• Some gossip for gossips sake, others seek truth, and some just get lost between the two, who got married? how could she? the &*(%$ thought I was going to steal him!
• Some artists become famous while living, the other 95% fame came late, a bit too late for them to witness it, passion.
• Some let you down, look up and you don’t need them no more.
• Some excite you, some make you, some love you, some hate you, some envy you, some cherish you, some can’t live without you, some anticipate you, some understand you, some walk with you, some run away from you, some seek you, some hint, some shy away, someone out there is in need for you, some.

Every once in a while you must stop, collaborate & listen. Every once in a while you will lose something in exchange for something, with or without that someone, you need to keep on moving. Every once in a while you need to understand to be understood.

mamdooh.alradadi on some lazy friday afternoon.

me@mamdoohalradadi.com

Long ago, high on a mountain in the deserts of Arabia, lived a young shepherd boy named Sultan. Sultan was the pride and joy of his father a feared and highly respected tribe member, high on the ranks and soft on the heart. The father was a lover, a poet and brave desert warrior in his time. His name was very well known, and again, sultan was his son.

As the desert is a vague place to many, it is also the greatest land known to many, for its riches, its wisdom and poetry, in it lay the secrets of lost civilizations and in it you find anything from scorching heated days, to blistering chilly nights that can only be survived by hot arabica coffee with cardamon served around a nice warm wood fire. The next time you pass over some desert remember those small facts.

Like father like son they say, what the father starts the son continues, thats how it goes in the desert, its all tribal, and so wonderful. You see Sultan had dreams like many his age, he was only 10 at the time. His father had made sure he learns to read Arabic in order to memorize the holy Quran, and that was all he cared about. Perhaps some poetry along the way would be a bonus, nothing extravagant like the people of the city the father thought.

They had a small pick up for moving things and a few sheep from time to time, maybe buy some groceries every month from the closest little shop on the outskirts of the city. As the internet is what amazed and opened the eyes of many young people of today, and made them go on a never ending journey through information, this little trip is all it took to spark little sultan’s imagination of what lies beyond his little village on the mountains?

Sultan was no ordinary looking young boy, his flocked hair was long and strong, his eyes like hawks, wide and wonderful, his looks showed love, but could strike fear into enemies at that young age. His built was strong, his jaw line masculine, and this mostly came from his mother side, the father married well and made sure his generation was a strong and beautiful one. His father was the only one to break the rules of engagement in his tribe, he left his cousin to marry someone else, he sought his wife from a far and well known tribe in the north, and came back to his father years later to announce her as his wife, his father accepted the fact as stubbornness was a trait they all shared.

Many told him to protect his son by praying the mighty Allah protect him from the eyes of the envious bedouins, he did so many days and nights. Sultan was soft spoken, intelligent and always seemed to get things done faster and asked too many questions, his father loved that and answered anything he knew.

One day his father dropped him off at the store and told him he would be back for him in a few hours, so stay near till my return, he kind of obeyed. After half an hour in the distant desert a large car was approaching at a very fast speed, apparently some lost city people looking for action getting lost again. As the large GMC parked sultan could see a family of five, four adults and one child in the back which he couldn’t quite see.

“Which way to the highway?” the man screamed in a very ignorant and bully way to the bedouin store keeper.” you are too far my friend, I think you should consider spending the night, dusk is near and the lands are not safe at night”. The man laughed out loud, and looked at sultan in a kind way “ what do you think?” “ He is wise and has told you the truth, for in the desert lands beyond, you will have a difficult task moving through the valley to your destination” “ Mashallah!, you are well spoken for your age young boy” “ I am not a boy, if you don’t mind ya sheikh”. with those words he left the driver and made his way to the other side of the store.

On his way to the back of the store his eyes made him squint as if to remove some sand from them, he laid his eyes on the young child in the back seat, she made him lose his balance, he stopped looked, tried to digest and started moving again. The driver decided to accept the bedouins invitation and stay the night, Arabic hospitality had already started with the coffee, the slaughter of a goat on their behalf, and the guest house was theirs.

Meanwhile sultan was trying to figure out the sight of that young girl, he couldn’t quite figure it out. As she stepped out of the vehicle in a childish manner looking around in disgust and total shock at her fathers doings, sultan spied on her every move. She held a book in her hand and a little device in the other hand with some line attached to her ears.

The father screamed at the boys and his wife, but when it came to the young girl he came and kneeled down and asked her forgiveness, she refused and walked away to the back of the store, sultan ran further away and his heart beated faster than when he chased one of their camels that went a stray. As he was about to pick up his groceries and make way she bumped into him from the other side by pure chance.

She pulled the thing from her ear and was about to scream at him when he looked her straight in the eyes and said he was sorry, she basically melted from that one look of his gorgeous big brown eyes with eye lashes only a perfect camel could have, he had a certain smile in the look that made her feel at ease.

On the other hand when she gave him that serious look and changed it with the shocked one, he crumbled at her aqua green tropical eyes and her perfectly pointed bedouin nose, her hair as wild as the finest silk blowing wildly in the wind. Her beauty was breathtaking and her pose was that of a thoroughbred Arabian stallion. She extended her hand and he obeyed unwillingly, love at first bite. The beauty was non of them knew it. If you come to think about it for a second, isn’t that the most beautiful feeling?

He had a million questions to ask her, she was confused, her father intruded on their quick and sudden encounter. “ You little man will be our guest tonight, or as long as you wish, where are your parents?” “ My father is on his way, maybe in a couple of hours” “ Fine, come inside after you and her finish playing around” great they both think, more time to understand what is going on here?

They drank the extra sugar mint tea, passed on the food, talked and talked, exchanging ideas and questions, she couldn’t get his education level and no schooling, yet pointed out how smart he was, he wanted to know more of the outside world. It went on for hours, they did not know what to do, for this time was about to end, she quickly pointed out that she does not live in the country, she lives in England a distant land, which he said he had heard about from his father, although she was originally a true bedouin, her father was a high diplomat.

She scribbled some numbers, some letters, something called an address she said, look me up some day, you never know, sealed with a smile and a peck on his cheek as they were about to leave, the father apparently had some navigation system that found a short cut. Sultan’s father came early and had a nice chat with the lost driver, it was very evident his father was day dreaming and looking at his son for many more hours and days after that quick encounter with the strangers. Sultan knew things were going to change, you see gut feeling in the desert is all you have sometimes.

Change happens faster than you can blink your eye if you take into consideration the speed we travel at in this life. Sultan came out to his father one day showing him a book he had got from the little girl and wanted to learn more of this language thing, reading and writing was not his best at 10 he complained. His father dreaded the idea but knew he had to make the move and obey his eldest son and pride, he moved him to the city with his relatives and made him visit on weekends, the rest was history.

Sultan made it to the top of his class every year, passing the smartest ones and becoming a school icon. It was know the time the King was giving away scholarships and sultan got his, his country of choice was England.

Now Sultan was at a ripe age of 23 and was not the young little 10 year old we all knew, he was as wild and mysterious as the desert, handsome came with the terrain features, his bold looks and masculine built complimented his intelligent mind and soft spoken tongue.

Sultan made some wise choices when his father handed him some money to invest, and made some good money that he re-invested in his brain and some toys along the way. He knew he had one go at life, so he gave it all he could. He arrived at London before his school time, he was delivered a brand new Yellow Maserati with red leather seats and a certain roar he loved, he wanted to break the gloomy weather with style, when in Rome do like the Romans he thought, even though he was in England and a Bentley would have been more appropriate, typical he thought, and that for sure is not me.

As he parked his car at the front door of an upscale boutique to buy his family back home some gifts a strong yet subtle aroma seemed to suddenly fill the air, he looked up after checking if he had forgotten anything and just in front of him coming out of a ice white Vogue Range Rover stepped down a wonder woman.

She removed her shades gave him one look, and headed to the shop he was looking for, girls come in all looks and beauty he thought, but not as beautiful as the girls back home, she was a 7 in his book, but a 7 in Sultans book is a 10 anywhere on earth.

As he entered the shop he moved a flock of hair obstructing his view as the man in the store greeted him, she was there seated looking over some expensive necklaces and ear rings with diamonds lighting the room. Her perfume had some sandalwood, not too much he thought, just right, how ironic!

to be continued….

mamdooh.alradadi U.K. 2010

me@mamdoohalradadi.com

I used to laugh at my dad when he was working, pointing out the fact that I would never end up a book worm like him, he simply laughed. He never forced, argued, stuffed into my mind the importance of reading, he had a plan.

He noticed how fascinated I was with two things; airplanes & cartoons. So he gave me more of the good stuff, more cartoons and more information on airplanes. On the first side, cartoons, he noticed I loved comics, so he made sure I get every copy of a certain weekly comic and on the other hand subscribed to a long forgotten magazine called airplane, I had every single issue for 7 years, and I should have been a pilot with all the aeronautical information I knew.

Living as a kid in the west in the late 70’s was OK for TV & other forms of communication, but in Saudi Arabia technology and communications were years behind. My early command of the english language was a wonderful head start in the right direction. I had hundreds of english publications in front of me, and suddenly non! all programs and tv shows were in english, and suddenly a few every week.

My father was wise enough to know that the seed was planted, long before the land( me in this case) even felt it. He knew that once you ride the literature world in any form or way, you are a prisoner forever. He only needed to maintain and irrigate the farm from time to time to make sure it was a good harvest.

That fine seed that came in the form of a comic called Battle( a world war 2 comic) was all it took to grow a whole forest, and that forest is connected to another forest, and somehow the forests connect with jungles and landscapes of never ending fountains of information and knowledge pouring on me till this day.

What I know now, is not what I knew then, or even yesterday, you have to make sure you grow daily, intake, keep the flows of information coming, do not block them, make way for ideas, creativity, different views, side views, birds eye view, macro, micro, opposite sex ideology, even different life form communication skills if ever there was a need.

Like a domino effect, things fall in perspective. My father told me many years ago,that sometimes a book will pay you back 100 times its cost in future earnings when he saw my book addiction, the way I shock book stores with my enormous pile of different subjects ranging from business to child psychology and the many communication and networking books. I managed to ease the crazy book shopping on my travels after a guy called Jeff bezos opened a little shop called Amazon, I know I’m big there cause I have a little title that spells Prime .

I still don’t know what I want? what I like? its all good in my view, all really good, to know, to understand, to listen, to examine, to be amazed by the planet that we live in and all the things it holds in it. Everything that man ever thought of and brought to life has a trail, I love to follow trails, sometimes its great to follow a trail that brings you back to where you already are, makes you wonder, is there a shorter path? keep looking, keep digging, keep reading.

My message is to all the young people out there, and this time all the older people out there too, plant the seeds, and take care of your harvest, you would only know the power of the internet today if you lived in the back then era!

I am proud and amazed at the young people of today. They bring light to this life with the level of understanding and broad spectrum they posses. The technology has brought to us today a whole new life form of intellects and we the elder should act accordingly and with responsibility.

Here are my 10 requests from anyone reading this:

1. Plant the seeds in your youngsters as early as possible and with love and care and a whole lot of understanding of their like and dislikes.
2. Look deeper into your surroundings, does it spell information or history, update your systems faster than you did 3 years ago. What you know today is totally obsolete in 2.5 years, keep learning in your area and outside it constantly.
3. Never force information in, let it take its natural form, by desire to learn.
4. Follow your heart and read what you want, when you want, as long as you want, set your own parameters and make sure that trespassers will be shot.
5. Take a broad view of things and how they relate, look outside your box, ask more questions, more and more people love it when you ask them, don’t take it from bullies, take it from the people who love to give.
6. Ask more questions, debate anything, do your homework and investigate before you ask, it will give you better answers and faster responses.
7. Do not waste time with the blabber mouths, the know it alls, the one way communicators, the “hear my story” every time people, the ones that just want to talk, you know the ones that start to answer before you finish the question kind,
8. Find your reading style, find your book preferences( do you like them small, big, spaced out and white?) find your best digestion time, carry books and magazines with you.
9. Manage your reading, cut newspaper & magazine articles and carry them with you, find out if you like it soft copy( on the computer) or hard copy?read opposite sex magazines, read outside your field, check out comics for instant stress relief, read fitness magazines, read beyond headlines in newspapers.
10. Take your reading seriously. In the end you will be judged by what comes out of your mouth when asked a question, you will be categorized wether you like it or not, you will be able to  express yourself clearer and win more communication battles with knowledge, you can relate things better, you can be more creative, you can manage change faster and easier, knowledge is power for the seekers.

Imagine all the peoples brains we walk in and out of daily? hope you enjoyed walking in my mind today, I did say no running around didn’t I? have a great day

mamdooh.alradadi

me@mamdoohalradadi.com

My life has witnessed many ups & downs, more downs than ups, down’s pave my future ups, each one higher than its predecessor. Dips they call them. Some small, some steep & deep. I eagerly await my next dip, for behind each dip, there is a valley, and with it comes my new mountains to climb & conquer, keep climbing!

I never saw a straight line climbing success. If you analyze the line closely you will see the downs and dips, with all the pain and suffering, the anxiety, the stress levels at boiling point, its al there cleverly disguised. People sometimes need to fake it till they make it, or in other occasions just contain and never complain about their day, while in reality they suffer as you speak.

Every two and a half years you will face a major crisis in your life, sometimes earlier says success guru Brian Tacey. Not just problems, major crisis and life changing happenings, you will be rocked, Your boat and everything in it will be rocked and rattled, shaked and baked, taken for the life thrilling test drive. To see what your made of.If you manage to stay afloat after this experience, then you are granted a gate pass to the next level, if not, you sink, and remain in the dust of the successful few. Success has a price you know, like everything else in life.

The only difference between success and anything else you buy, is the payment structure. For everything else you pay and receive on the spot or in a few days, for success you pay today in hard work and major contributions and sacrifices, and wait for your turn to receive it, no guarantees!

So why do people still pay upfront for this so called success? with all its pain and hurt, suffering and never clear roads. With all the books and papers, with all that waking up early and focus pokas training. With all those lost friends and fun time, You had to give up so many great activities, including just being a bum! Why?

If you ask me, I can tell you one thing I know, it has a great taste and after taste to it, one that stays long after you digest the fact. Success has a sweet smell and flair to it. Success moves your senses, sometimes you feel areas in your body that you never knew existed. Success is the potion that you rub onto anything you touch and it turns to gold. Success leaves trails and tracks, imagine they are yours? You write it, you ride it. “You can do it!” is one of the many driving factors I used along the way, and I scream out to you all, you too can, so what are you waiting for? start walking that winding road.

They say it has unknown lengths, it does not use miles of kilometers, it uses sweat, hours and more hours,sacrifice, focus, target setting and milestones all mixed up in a big juicer and then whatever comes out is the new measure for that part of the road.

When faced with doubt, doubt that doubt and cross it out. Go with the GROW and follow your gut feelings, your internal success compass knows more than the average friends that surround you, respect yourself and listen to your guiding systems at all times.

“If you want to take your mission in life
to the next level, if youre stuck and
you dont know how to rise, don’t
look outside yourself. Look inside.”

p.s. sorry for the short note, 1+1=2 and not some essay elaborating on the exact answer. Now you have saved more time to enjoy your day

mamdooh.alradadi

me@mamdoohalradadi.c

This is the story of a little girl who grew up in a country called saudi arabia, another country in the planet with opportunities for those who seek them. Why did I relate it to opportunity? because it is and always will be, very simply put any place on earth is, some more than others.

She grew up here, studied some time outside, came back and refused to sidetrack from her friends negative vibrations that seem to have doubled ever since she left them four years ago. She had one friend that adored her, believed in her, knew she was going places. This other girl was a local by all means, and studied at local schools, local colleges, even had a few gigs on the side to help with her expenses, some secretarial, hospital, sales to name a few.

Two girls one mission. Who are they up against? the rest. They know how hard it is to succeed in a country that had nothing in store for ladies and was trying hard to fill the gap steadily.They know many girls who made it to the top of businesses across the country, these girls were not doctors( they seem to have had no problems). They pin pointed their targets in terms of success. They identified the models, the goals they went for, the average time it would take them, and most of all saw the end, felt the success, actually breathed it in every day from that day onwards.

They would meet up casually to talk about their milestones covered, obstacles removed, threats that lay ahead of them. All this while their friends whined some more and stuck to the crowd doing what they do best, follow like a herd. The two girls enjoyed it day by day and had sweet little victory celebrations every once in a while.

They faced society with all they had, faith. They saw every problem as a challenge, tough or soft, they knew it when it came and handled it with care. Many people tried putting them off, including their families and closest of friends, asking them to get married and settle down, they had greater visions not apparent to the eyes of the jealous and clueless many.

As days are numbers and months are more digits, years come and go, a few years later, the two are celebrating their major milestones. Each has managed to carve a place for themselves in prestigious corporations head to head with their rivals, men. Although men seem to want to help, they also have their own back to handle in a fast paced ever so changing competitive business atmosphere.

They start to seek mentors for their coming years of success, all by the book, every inch of the way clearly planned and put to practice. They know that they have moved mountains so far, now its time to move lands,change the face of the earth preparing the arrival of the next generation of female workforce which make up for 50% of the population or a bit more based on some late figures.

Who ever said it was easy they think out loud, but it was real fun and what kept us going was the following major points they write:

• A true visible vision of our dream.
• Real faith in our abilities.
• Not to walk on previous peoples failures, walk around them.
• Keep our vision on track no matter what.
• Leaving the box and living out of the box, wether people liked it or not.
• Faced our fears head on, eye to eye and spoke up.
• Used our brains as well as our hearts on our quest.
• Never looked back only to see how far we have covered.
• Took the negative words and down force communication from people and recycled them positive.
• Worked smart not hard.
• Thanked people for their help all along.
• Always asked questions and respected peoples views, that way we always got the very best.
• Were grateful to be living in such great moments in mankind’s history.
• Networked like bees, always giving then receiving.
• Used the buddy system.

You see it can be done, stop penalizing yourself for false things you think that keep you tied down. Things that only live inside your head, always growing heavier never moving you forward. Just as there are girls with no future in the near horizon, many boys face the same perils due to ignorance and giving up too early. Billions of words have been written on this subject, but few go digested. There is only one way in my opinion to move, make things SIMPLE!

What do you want? what do you really want? do you want it really bad? does it ache when you don’t have it? do you see yourself having it day and night? does it shake you inside out? does it hurt you? does it live in you and all you can see is IT? if it does then you are ready to move, if not work harder at what you really want.

We all know it, we all feel it and I have rarely been wrong on things to come in this world, only because I listen

Only those who will risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go.  ~T.S. Eliot

Goals are dreams with deadlines.  ~Diana Scharf Hunt

mamdooh.alradadi

me@mamdoohalradadi.com

They used to gather every weekend, we used to accompany them by force, they used to have fun as sisters and brothers with their whole family, they were my aunts and uncles. We were young children then, only observers as they say, we only digested and filtered what we wanted to remember and threw the rest to the cats.

• They used to have fights every week, and meet the very next. We have the same fights, we meet after months.
• The wife has daily battles with her husband, makes up the next day as if nothing ever happened, and does it again & again, we choose the easy way out and divorce one another.
• People took peoples words to the Bank, today we take them to court.
• Simple was king back then, complicated is the way to be today.
• Schools forced us to learn back then, garbage in garbage out, schools are starting to listen in on humans real needs for progress.
• Controlled directed information was then, today its up for grabs, its what you do with it that counts.
• Cars were Bigger, gas thirsty, now they are mean and lean, tiny and cute, trying to free themselves from gas and ready for a Sun tan instead.
• Managers were Bosses then, today they are part of the team.
• Pepsi and Seven up were icons back then, now its back to basics and natural, how ironic?
• Sell, Sell, Sell was the way of yesteryear, service, service, service is what it is now.
• Expensive travel and phone calls are replaced with train fare air travel and hours of free air time to chat on the phone.
• Post cards are replaced with email messages and sms mumbo jumbo.
• Music was really made by real people then, today its electronic most of the time, love was the theme back then, its hard core house and brain draining techno today.
• Business was done by long traveling days and exploration, today its B2B without leaving your office.
• Movies were about wars and horror, now they are about funny and run away from reality more than ever.
• Marriage is taken lightly and faster today, it was a life sentence back then, one you wanted to serve the years.
• World domination and cold wars were replaced with strategic political takeovers today.
• Reading was written in finely binded books, you can have the same today in PDF ebooks.
• Food was wholesome, today its the latest version of fresh fast food.
• Mom and pop stores filed the world, today they are replaced with things they call Mega Malls, and Hyper Markets with cheaper items.
• What was handsome and pretty back then is not so these days, the measures have changed so fast no one knows what to expect.
• Women were the backbone and never reached the highest ranks in the past, today men are aware of them eventually taking over their male dominant world for the last 20 centuries,
• Children were fragile in the early years, now they are forming into a stronger kind of children driven by the new fast lifestyles they live today.
• Money was cash and coins, today its electronic.
• Travel agencies were a big deal and actually the only deal, today they are replaced with expedia.com & hotels.com.
• Learning was on campus, today in your pajamas at your mac.
• American muscle cars ruled the planet for more than 70 years, today the far east and Europe are bringing the American car companies to a melt down, They are now starting to listen to their customers like the Japanese did in the 70’s on American soil.
• People had no choice on what to watch except for their countries broadcasting arms, today you can watch a program airing in the US within 24 hours in the Middle East.
• Music was made on LP’s and Cartridge tapes, today its Mp3 electronic music. Movies were on big rolls of film today on DVD and computer files.
• Computers had 128 mb memory, today phones have 4 GB’s of internal memory expandable to 8GB and more.
• Photos were taken and developed in 24 hours, now you can take the same one 100 times and edit it, upload it to the net in less than 2 minutes.
• In the old days the ugly people or so they say, were labeled that for as long as they lived. Today you walk into a clinic and change your look as many times as you wish and have that pointed nose you always wanted or those hairs you longed for after you lost yours.

Back then for me to write to you all everyday would be a killer task, today I write to you in my towel ready for my midnight shower before I sleep and just press publish and its yours!

If back then is now in a few days or years, have a great then & now

mamdooh.alradadi

me@mamdoohalradadi.com