He: HI honey how was your day?

She: Well it was OK I can say, not too great though.

He: Why baby, you just got promoted last week to regional manager, and the challenges were more, you love that don’t you?

She: its not that, its…

He: Yes?

She: Its about me and you, I think we should schedule a nice long talk soon.

He: Now. What is on your mind honey? please let me know, I know I have been traveling too much lately, but I do miss you, you know that.

She: Yes…but..

He: Talk baby, what’s bothering you, I insist to know it all, just let it out.

She: Are you sure you want to know everything? I mean all the issues and things, now? today?

He: OK this sounds serious, please stop it and tell me.

She: Only if you insist, and will try to understand my point.

He: Sure.

She: There’s another man in my life, actually many more men in my life. I tried to find what I was looking for, and now there is someone who wants me for who I am, wants to be with me forever, sorry, but I share feelings for him, and I want a divorce as soon as possible. Do not worry about our three children, we are both grown ups, and we can handle it. Please understand where I’m coming from.

He: Silence.

She: Please don’t do that, talk to me, you always stay quite when I say something, always have neglected my thoughts and feelings, you always do this,I hate it, over the last 5 years you have been only nice to me, never for me, never close to me, all gone with the wind.

He: More silence, slight redness to the face. Temperature & pressure rising. Steam off.

She: Come on! say something! I need to know anything, talk to me.

He: And…what else?

She: What do you mean what else? much more… If you insist since its our last confrontation… All my travels were with boyfriends, I told the world I was divorced, I respected who you were and they never knew you..

He: Haahaaahahaaaaaaaaaa thank you!

She: There goes that sarcastic tone of yours again! And most of the times we never slept together I was afraid you might catch something, as I had many mild infections, but that’s too much details for you, sorry.

He: Thank you again, I am astonished at your classy manners and well being, your bringing up was of the finest high class standards we all dream of having, continue darling, please continue… I am intrigued..

She: Sarcasm will get you no where! And don’t you dare talk about my family! you know who they are and what they can do to you, unlike people I know..

He: Well honey, I have something to tell you too.

She: What now? you wanna divorce me? I asked for it anyway, what you are shocked at he news? what? what?

He: I have a wife and a kid, I do not have any girlfriends, I do not sleep with you because you don’t want me to, thats all no diseases, I respect your family, but disagree with their product that’s all, I never stopped loving you, I gave you my full respect and believed in you, I tried many times to warn you of your friends and lifestyle, I made myself so I know the pitfalls of this life we live, I never inherited anything, I worked hard to make us happy, now its someone else’s fate to be happy with me. In my attempt to watch over you for safety reasons, I stumbled upon your escapades and was devastated years ago, if you remember I took a long 30 day vacation to our Island beach house, but that was ages ago, I have been asked to get rid of you, but I couldn’t, you were the world to me, I trusted you unconditionally, now I can’t, sorry, but I have learnt that we need to move on, you chose to move on today, I have moved on 3 years ago darling.

She: On her knees fainting, disillusioned, confused, petrified, stabbed in the heart.

He: I have all arrangements in place for you and my children, my lawyers have taken all actions, you took so long to come out of your closet. Oh! and my wife says I need to stand by your side till you get better, I think you know her, your best friend Sheila, the one that always warned you about what you were doing, but you told her to get a life…she took your advice.

They say the truth is best unsaid…is it?

mamdooh.alradadi

me@mamdoohalradadi.com

He never missed a promotion. He was loved by his mother. He was the envy of the competition wherever he worked.He easily made friends. He loved people, even though he was stamped as an introvert. He manages conflict with ease. He had one wonderful thing he did, only one thing, he threw the rest, only kept a few. But it was always one thing.

He was every girls dream. He wasn’t the handsomest, but the most loved. He was a woman’s dream come true. He was the soul of the party. He had his admirers stacked up against the wall when he passed. He blushed.

He manages people with grace. He had minimal enemies, in fact he had none. He helped, gave, he was generous in each helping hand, and then gave some more. The more he gave the more he rose above the humanly daily requirements to a higher ground. He flew above the crowd, his smooth operational skills made it seem effortless.

He was needed. When he doesn’t show up his space seemed like a volcano’s opening in the ground. He lived by the minute, enjoyed the seconds in every minute, he wished there was more to spread his sweetness. Everyone knew they could confide in him. He only did one thing.

He never intended to be like this. It only happened when he decided to start a new habit in his life. He chose wisely. He let go of the bad habits he grew up with. He knew what he had to keep and work on. He knew it was only one thing that would distinguish him from the pack. One thing only. Nothing else.

As the years rolled by, he noticed sudden changes in his surroundings and encounters. He noticed that people were nicer, kinder, better,more helpful, all by focusing on one trait. He had better days, nights and afternoons. He enjoyed endless happy hours, limitless laughter and joy, he had a lifetime supply of new friends, he was being honest and sincere in everything he did, but when asked about the true reason behind his happy succesful life, he knew it wasn’t that.

People call him friendly, but then again who isn’t? they called him helpful, not too many to go around. They saw him as their backbone, their friend in need, their soulmate, their final stop before giving up, he was there, he delivered.

As he laid his head on his pillow at night, just before he called it a day, just before his motors shut down for the night, just before he starts the recharging process, and exactly before his screen started to fade out, he did what he does best, one more time he thought, you can never get enough of a good thing…

He listened.

Man who know little say much.
Man who know much say little.

mamdooh.alradadi

me@mamdoohalradadi.com

What are you up to today?

I went out with the girls, had some sushi, what about you?

My friend came over, we had a game of football, kicked my ass as usual.

lol, when will you stop playing, you’re just no good!

Say’s who? a girl that can’t kick a ball? or a hot babe who’s an air head on tech?

Hey! You know I don’t like it when you make fun of me… at least I can speak 3 languages and cook Italian dishes, what can you do? a Tuna sandwich at most..loool.

Yeah right! I know more stuff than you do and you know that, anyways.. when are you travelling?

Don’t know? my father has some work to finish next week, but  guess in a couple of weeks max.

OMG!

What?

I’m gonna miss your ugly face!

Oh how sweet! coming from a Jerk like you, that’s a compliment…do you mean it?

yes

Say it.. nicely.

I am going to miss your not so ugly face..

nicely

I will miss you so much honey, very much, too much and you know it..

really now?

really.

what’s wrong with you?

I wanted to see you today for coffee or a shisha the weather was nice.

that’s sweet of you, wish I could but you know how it is..

Let me pretend just don’t give me excuses!

I always see you when I can, why are you so uptight today?

Its work, sorry honey.

That’s OK just relax, inhale, exhale and imagine me next to you.

Ahhhh, yeah that feels better since your next to me, come here you little darling you..

hey remember what you used to call me when we first added each other?

smarts?

yes! you remember, you touched me!

where?

hey behave!

come on smarty pants, gimmie a chance to prove my love to you

who said you prove it like that?

typical girlie talk!

whatever

come on sexy, gimmie a kiss

xxx

ouch!

your the hot one you know, my only hot one, the one and only..

stooooooooop!

what!?

you turn me on, then you say your busy and leave me hanging!

not really baby, not this time…I want to look at those lips of yours, really look at them, don’t get excited if I lick my lips in the process, you know I can’t handle your heat.

nobody told you to pretend to be Mr.Macho when I saw you last year!

hey! just because I respected you on our first date you say this?

Yeah well you know I wanted to but you needed to be a man and make a move

You know I’m all the man you will ever need honey

I know

how sweet, I can imagine your face now all blushed and brushed

love those girly winks of yours

love that tongue too you hot stuff

behave!

ok i have to go,,, catch you later

wait!

what?

kiss me

xxxxxxxxxxx

enough! leave some for later

I can’t control it, you drive me crazy! let me come over now and be a bad boy

yeah right

I will if you hesitate, I don’t care what will happen? your parents find me in your bedroom?

stop it your scaring me

I can imagine what wold happen to you by the time they find us!

What is wrong with you today?

I guess its that fish meal I had..lool

that’s all?

And your sexy pic I’m checking out, the one with those tight apple bottom jeans, and that cleavage the wild hair in the sun, and that killer tan, what else?

you like that one?

I love it, actually I have a big one made for my bedroom

liar

maybe

give me a kiss, just one

come over and i will

come on

ok I’ll come over

give me!!!

x

another one

x

More

xx

I want more, stop teasing!

XxXxXXxxxxxXxXxx

Now go away!

I love it when you take advantage of me and abuse me!

lol

Do you like it when I’m a bad boy in bed?

STOP!

Ok, so I crossed the line… but what can I do?

typical!

listen

what?

I’m coming over

yeah right

I will, let me go now, open the door when I call you, Im gonna park a bit further down the road, just in case I have to make a run for it like the last time

what last time?

ooops! wrong number

WHAT???

love to tease you baby, wear that nice short over used old cotton tweetie nighty for me

I threw it

NOOOOOOOOOOO!

joking

ok I’m on my way…give me 15

crazy..

I will, I have a surprise for you!

what I love surprises? tell me, tell me!

nope!

please

na ah!

pretty please with a cherry on top

beg..

I’m on my knees..tell me…

OK

what?

look next to you

She looks to her left and there he is, closing his laptop in his comfy boxers with that bad boy look in his eyes, she throws away her new sony and stands up on the bed in a baby way, wearing his favorite Tweetie nighty, and her perfume was killing him.

She jumps hysterically on the bed, arousing the living daylights out of him! He holds himself back, then suddenly jumps up and grabs his sexy hot wife, holds her from the back of her head, his hands entangled in her hair, brings her closer to his face, looks at her lucious juicy lips, takes a glance at her eyes, takes a whiff of her neck, slowly breathing down behind her ears, moves back,wets his lips…

Ignite that flame.

Baby you’re so new age, you like my new craze

Let’s get together maybe we can start a new phase

The smokes got the club all hazy, spotlights don’t do you justice baby

Why don’t you come over here, you got me saying

Aayooh

I’m tired of using technology, I need you right in front of me

Justin Timberlake & 50 Cents.

mamdooh.alradadi

me@mamdoohalradadi.com

He said: I love this song it reminds me of the good days.

She said: I wonder why?

He said: because it reminds me of the good days.

She said: what about them?

He said: Just a nice memory, nothing much. I was wild and free, my worries were much smaller and my spirit much younger,and most of all my risks in life much bigger!

She said: Why what has changed? you seem so in love with your past!

He said: Not really, just a feeling you know, don’t think about it. Its between me, myself & I.

She said: You make me laugh. You really think your life has become something worse than it was ages ago! you should be happy I am in your life, besides I am the one who should be crying over my past and what I was, not you.

He said: What? who said I was crying over my past or present, just a feeling I had. You are so good at changing the subject into a personal vendetta.

She said: Vendetta…hmmmm, too many movies I see.

He said: Yes. The movies about to start, lets forget about it.

She said: Let’s not, and pretend we did! you are so good at running away from my conversations, every day you have a new thing to keep you occupied, if its not a movie its a phone you have to attend to, if not a phone a paper you have to read, if not that its your children, please respect my presence,

He said: Who ever said i don’t respect your presence? and what is this running away you talk of?

She said: You know its true, I even forgot what I was talking about! you are oh so good at changing subjects and guiding conversations, this is not your work you know, its me! your wife, your love, your old sweetheart, the mother of those children you hide behind always.

He said: Listen to yourself, its you who is changing the subject, guiding the conversation into areas we don’t even know anything about as usual.

She said: I knew it. Forget it, I am going out, I don’t need this. Enjoy the kids and your movie.

He said: Is this how we solve our quarrels? leaving the house?

She said: What are you going to do now? use your manly powers over me and prohibit me from leaving? go ahead do it! you are so good at being a male chauvinist pig.

He said: What has happened to you? is it that time in the month honey? you are calling me names now! please don’t do that.

She said: Now you want to sweet talk me! How typical, such a typical man, why did I listen to you back then and get married? I should have left with my family and completed my masters in the US years ago, came back got that banking job, and maybe today you would be the one whining and PMS-ing.

He said: You know something, go out, you need some fresh air. And while you’re at it, get me some Jamoca ice cream in a cone on your way back.

She said: You are so unbearable, so predictable and most of all, a typical man that only thinks about himself.

He said: Well what do you know, you have finally found out my secret, why don’t you get out of my face, you have done enough harm today, let it go.

She said: And if I don’t? you will do what? tell me? come on Mr. man, Mr.powerful man.

He said: Haahahaa, just go.

She said: What I work for you now? do you see yourself? hear yourself? watch yourself?

He said: No I don’t I am perfect!

She said: UFFF!

He said: Now look who is in a bad mood, relax and go enjoy yourself, I have already missed 10 minutes of the movie.

She said: I hope this movie can help you with the kids in the morning and put food on the table tomorrow when I am gone.

He said: Oooh, look at me I’m afraid, I’m shaking, petrified, maybe I can double as a maid for a while.

She said: Is that what I am to you now? A maid! very nice, I hate it when I cry in your presence, you always make me cry… I hate you.

He said: I love you too.

You never seem to know what to do in such wild, directionless conversations between the two sexes. Many people tend to do that, continue in an attempt to either win or lose, without even knowing what is supposed to be the outcome.

I know that the conversation is a boring one, a very known one, a battle if you may with each side playing to the others weaknesses and emphasizing their own sex manner in their words.

Each dances to his tunes, muting the other one when he or she wants, eventually dancing alone. There are signals one of the partners is screaming silently needing to be heard, while the other choses to look the other way.

We need to do the following to dig for the truth:

1- Look for signals or changes in patterns early and surface them fast, not later when its too late.

2- When one partner is dancing alone, we need to see why we were left out? what did we do? why did they shy away from us? we should try and win them back in a rightful manner, in a way that they think it was a natural one, nothing beats nature.

3- Never confront a wild animal with more confrontation, move away from the bulls horns, unless you like being a spanish trainee bull fighter. As you know, it never ends nicely, either the fighter is killed or hurt, or the bull is hurt or killed, its a Lose/Lose situation, so why enter the stadium? take them by surprise and wait outside with a bunch of roses.

4- No one is perfect, remember that, not even you with all that experience and sex-perience under your arms. You can be old and learn from a younger crowd, or vice versa.

5- Choose the right time to confront or have your talks.

6- Be an observer of your own actions, your own talk, your own reactions.

7- Why do you assume things that never existed, don’t we already have enough problems in our life, we seem to run to problems instead of run away from them. We tend to surrender easily now instead of fight for our voices and ideas, we tend to take our loved ones for granted now, have you taken your loved one for granted lately?

8- Its never hard to be heard, its how you speak and display your emotions that matter most.

9- We are all fragile in the end, no one is a rock, not men nor women, we are all fragile creatures, little children in grown-up disguises, everyone of us. Even our parents and those bullies we all used to have in our lives, fragile I tell you.

10- In the end we all win, it depends on your idea of victory. Was it a game of tug of war? who ever has the greatest might and power wins? or is it a smarter strategy involving devious planning and undermining? or was it just plain stubborn minds in the wilderness letting off steam by bagging heads against each other?

One way or the other, one party leaves the scene, physically or emotionally- Mamdooh Al-Radadi

me@mamdoohalradadi.com

Why would you hide behind a male, or female on a great social tool like facebook? I have witnessed lately several attempts to get away with a stupid, sick, pshycotic act like that, now here is what I would write on my doctor findings sheet after 3 days of intense sessions with this patient:

I have met and studied the case of Mr.—-,—–. A very well known individual in the community, based on his own words. A grown mature male, has his good parts and here are the other findings that may raise an eyebrow or two for that matter:

• Patient uses other sex to understand himself better by asking about himself through the eyes of a female.
• Patient seems distressed and in need of some love and affection badly.
• Patient uses female user id to make friends easier cause he can’t on his own as a man.
• Patient likes the female user id and dresses up for the part to actually live the project.
• Patient dreams big dreams and comes through the female side to convey his findings.
• He never can digest he is actually only one person, and not two, one being him, and the other his female side.
• He never cared about the feelings of others, all he cared about was to be famous, even if he knew deep down he was not.
• He was going to be something, but never quite got the idea of society rejecting him.
• She/He should be treated from this ridiculous insanity by forcing one out of the other, he has to choose, the girl or the boy/man?
• Not safe around people, can infect you with his ideas and the next thing you know you will be a Girl, before you met him you were a guy!
• He uses the same typos in his writing. She blesses the day he was born.He has real dialogues with her on FB. She loves him back. Thats Love!
• At parties he chooses his sex based upon audience, he/she is never looking at the odds, its always good.
• He shall be the perfect star for my He said, She said sequence. I had ten in mind, now I have a whole mexican soap goin on! maybe 360 episodes.
• When asked why he did it? she is too shy to answer.
• She and he always go on international dream trips, while in reality they are role playing in the garden  him, himself, and he.
• He sometimes gets confused when talking to a man and fixes her bra, going into the ladies bathroom has never been an issue.

Now seriously, have we lost our mind to think we can get away with things of this magnitude? Is this their idea of blowing their own horn? did they even take a moment to think things through?

What kind of illusions and problems would this person carry, and most importantly, how many are there out there? do they pack at night both sexes which are either all male, or all female and talk about their escapades?

When was the last time they looked in the mirror? So sad, yet so much required…

mamdooh.alradadi

me@mamdoohalradadi.com

The following facts are based on a make believe story, names and faces have been removed from the plot for your own safety, parental guidance highly required.

A 27 divorced man, married 3 years ago, out of a loving relationship. Nice job, nice family background, has a child shared by both parents. Works at a major F&B company in the region, is well off and lving a pure bachelors life.

He is an extremist in everything if you may. He has been driven home on many occasions due to high levels of chemicals and wheat & barley end products, has hurt so many hearts, a player in the game.

He likes everything, he parties with everyone, he knows many, he drives the latest foreign cars, he wears not so bad clothing, he barely manages from month to month with his expenses. He is lately trying to focus on his work, looking at his financials, they look sick and need ER to fix in the near future and major organ donations to secure his future. “ If only I focus on work and less on playing” he thinks.

He is actually known as a player and boasts most of his actions and summer escapades, he is a teenagers dream come true. He is not known for his religious belonging or practices or even prayers, he is one who say’s one day I will start. The wait for the sign came earlier than he anticipated.

A close friend of his, actually his friend since he was 3 years old had a car accident last week and passed away, god bless his soul. It triggered a fear, a reality, everyones ending. The trigger became a thought, that generated an idea, that became a magnet to  greater things, the things materialized into practices, practices pulled earlier weak beliefs and made them the only belief, self awareness was wide awake, daily doings were revisited, actions were put on hold, many calls went unanswered, crowds became small groups, groups were stripped into a few, the few became one, that last man standing decided to join the others,

The vision became clearer, the mission became holy, the eyesight was 20/20, if all was great he thought, where is all this fuzziness coming from? He starts to dismantle how he goes about things in life, he learns that he must be strong in the face of the devil, he is cautioned to take it easy before he loses it and moves away from its greatness to an area only known to backfire, he never listens to these others!

His parents like what they see, but also add to the precautions, he does not like the way his father and mother are living, his sisters and brothers are nothing more than the others, they are far from the greatest greatness of our religion, he is shadowed by doubt, which he destroys at every contact point to move on. He starts the orders about how things should be, his sisters panic, his brothers whatever, his father is annoyed, his mother cries. He does not see this never ending domino effect he is creating, he can only see his ways, he preaches and insists on teaching, his way, or fly out of my way.

The battles are many, the casualties…well, lets not go there. He fights with them all, and when they are all gone, he fights with his thoughts, and conveys positive affirmations of his rightful doings.

He accuses many, with things you cannot take lightly as a judge, let alone a new comer. “Our religion is based on love and tenderness and kind words that make you love our practice” peacefully whispers his mother. Whatever! is his response, who are you to tell me?she weeps away at her sons treatment to her. The irony of the matter is that in  our religion she is the most sacred of creatures Allah has warned us of hurting, how could this  new powerful believer treat her like that?

Don’t you think that this dissection of the community should not wake up and smell the coffee, rather have the coffee at boiling temperature slowly dripped in their eyes to see clearly!

• Is it not they that set the example for attitude in their play years?
• Is it not true that they gave BAD a new meaning?
• What about the same people you warn day in day out without shedding the light on the positives of returning to faith and enjoying both worlds? did they not tell you that too much of a good thing can turn against you?
• What about your ever so sweet mother that held you for 9 months then protected you from the rest of the world forever/as long as she lived( which ever comes first).
• What about your sisters and brothers who took up with your silliness and wrong doings which eventually caught up with their reputation?
• What about the poor hearts you broke and the wife you divorced after she caught you cheating on her oh so many times?!
• Where did you hide all those illegal things? was it not your only friends that saved your ass so many years, hoping that one day you will come to your senses?

Enough of this attitude of pushing & shoving & screaming you practice, I have one word for you: SICK!

There are ways to preach and teach. Yelling from experience never paid off, physical abuse will get you behind bars sooner than you think. Shouting and taking the most space in conversations will prove you wrong before you even start.

Change takes time. Resistance will be tolerated. People need their space to think then act.

If the trigger was the loss of your friend, then answer this my humble friend” How many triggers were pulled today, what will be the consequences of such happenings? What will the people like you do?will they stay strong and lead the way to a brighter day with respect and dignity, understanding and common beliefs? did you take your talk for a walk lately, all alone, no one but you?

Enough said.

mamdooh al-radadi

me@mamdoohalradadi.com

He: I need some space to think darling.
She: Why do you need space, am I bothering you?
He: No its just I have to much pressure at work and need some time to readjust.
She: Well let me in on your troubles darling, I told you I would be there for you!
He: Baby, Its just that I need space, please don’t get me wrong.
She: Is there someone else in your life? Is there? please tell me, you have been acting strange lately. I knew my friends told me this was too good to be true.
He: What on earth are you talking about?
She: You know what Im talking about, so tell me.
He: Please understand me, I have no time for this BS of yours, I am really tired and Im gonna hang up now.
She: Go ahead run away from our conversations, Hang up in my face like you always do.
He: I always do that? when did I do that? why are you whining when I am in this state of mind, leave me alone!
She: There you said it, Leave me alone… I knew it, you always were hiding something from me. What did I do to deserve this?
He: Look, enough of this talk that is leading us nowhere, I have no time for this, please leave me alone now.
She: And now you have no time for me? and you want me to leave you alone? have it your way, goodbye.
He: You know what… Goodbye.
She: That easy you sell me cheap! That is how our love ends? Oh My God! you men are so predictable. Just get lost! one day you will miss me. BYE!
He: Whatever.
If only we could have a referee, a real referee that could ask us if we need a time out? and actually place us on hold, until we come to our senses.

If only we listen and accept the others point of view before its too late. If only boys and girls learn to play along.If only we stop listening and start hearing the others persons hidden messages.

Hidden signals are everywhere, every minute, in every move, some are vibrant and some are just that, hidden. You need to stop, collaborate & Listen.

Two ears & one mouth just about says it all.

Mamdooh Al-Radadi

me@mamdoohalradadi.com