But do we need to allocate a candidate then force our selves into falling in love? Or should love finds you?

Well there are no relationship development lessons out there in which we can take, the only way to find out is through trial and error. After a couple of heartbreaks, it is easy to believe that old saying (“all the good men are taken”). Maybe to comfort our selves. Or do we say “all the good men are taken” since they are from Mars and we are from Venus. How likely it is to find a straight emotional guy for an example? Did not you noticed how difficult it is to allocate something when you really need it? I guess that women most of the time do create very detailed images of the one to be, that is why it is really hard to find a match for all those measures. That if the measure were realistic in the first place, which could be also another derive for that saying.

I have never believed in Mr. Right, but I believe there are a couple of right guys for me. Since I have only would require minimum essentials measures in the one to be (my must have list is very short, yet complicated). Should a woman settle to minimum qualities in a male partner to increase the candidates pool size.

Should I prepare a must have in a partner list, and check against it ever single guy I meet for scores? Then should I roughly discuss my future plans (desires, needs, expectations) and views about life with the high scorers? Should I get attached to the first one who passes this check?

I am trying to overcome my love to this Mr. not right for me, but why did I fall in love with him in the first place. Am I insecure about my self, too afraid to end up alone, trying to seek self acceptance, thought that I can not find a better one to love me , is it cause I belived that love should find me not vice versa or is it all?

I only wish if I could find the answers in a book, to spare myslef the pain.

Finally, yeah I would have to agree with you that we should act upon but not complain in life for any matter. Great article!